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will he ever come out of his shell(s)?

This guy and I are what some may call "friends with benefits". I dont really mind it but I am in love with him and im pretty sure he feels the same way. But he is a party guy and has slept with many a girl in his day and he does pot and so on. I like to party every once in a while but basically we have different lifestyles. He tells me he likes me but then its like hes afraid of let his real feelings for me go and into the public. We get into fights and stop talking and then we have sex and its like everything is ok again. He has a bad home life and uses drugs and alcohol to escape that and I want to help him but he gets mad. I know he had a good future ahead of him and I dont want him to ruin it. and I want him to be able to share his true feelings with me without lying. what can I do and how do I approach this?? thanks a bunch!

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If I were you I would drop him like a brick. You need to move on and find someone that has your same goals and values. You are just hanging on to this guy because you are afraid that there is nothing better out there. Don't waist your life weighting for him to change because he will just keep doing what he is doing and he will continue to hurt you and use you. If you have any resects for yourself you should move on to someone that will respect you and not take advantage of your friendship like he does.

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