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Why wont this giuy text me back?

So I’ve been having sex with this guy for about two years now and im a sophmore and hes a senior.. I was in love with him I have been all along and I’ve tried moving on. So he always text me like a day or two before he wants to hookup and so I let him know where and when so he comes over all the time we hookup and he leaves but I always feel so alone after we do it. We see each other at school and all he does is look at me or nod.Him and his friends laugh at me and talk crap but then he says he doesnt.Why doesnt he text me back for like a week after we have sex I mean we both enjoy it with each other but why ? Help?

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Answer #1

Now. I’m going to assume you’re not stupid. You knowingly are allowing a guy who doesnt care about you to use you because you feel that it is better than him not being around. You can pretend all you want that when you have sex it means something and that he’s showing you affection, but at some point you’re going to have to wake up and realize that not only does he not care about you, but he has no respect for you whatsoever, and believes you have no worth and so can be tossed aside. Now. You have a choice here. You can agree with him. You can believe that you have no worth and so can be treated in any which way. He may be the first guy to do this to you. He wont be the last. You can go through a parade of guys. Sleeping with them hoping that they will love you. Spend the rest of your life wondering why he never calls. Whoever the he happens to be at that moment. Or you can realize that you have worth. Simply by being a living breathing person you have worth. Any other wonderful qualities you possess (because you do possess them) is just an added bonus that adds to you. And by realizing you have this worth, you can stand up and say I dont deserve to be treated like this. Not only do I deserve respect (I.e. you and your friends will NOT talk crap about me), but I deserve better than the type of guy who would treat ANY female the way you are treating me. Then you can stop texting him, stop allowing him to use you, and go find a guy who will treat you better than that.

Listen, I’m not preaching against sex. Seriously, as long as you’re safe and feel emotionally ready… I’m not the morality police. But, if you are using sex to get a guy or to keep them around, you’re going to have to learn that it does not work. Or this will become a life long pattern. Find a guy who loves you. One who will be with you regardless of the sex. Sex then becomes just an additional expression of your love.

Answer #2

He does not care about you in the least. Now I believe that some cases call for brutal honesty and this is one of them. You are probably one of the few girls in that school who will have sex with this guy and not care if he is not willing to be in a relationship, (atleast having sex that often for that long). He does not care about you. And you are obviouslt being used by him, and you make a fun joke to his friends. You need to just delete his number from your phone (that way when he txts you you can almost honestly respond with who is this?) Just dont be with him. Ever. And if he makes you a joke to his friends again, he is ASKING for you to say something like omg I have an unlimited supply of patience, I mean, it got so frustraing to pretend to enjoy it those times. And it always took him awhile to convince me it was actually in anyway But only say that if he makes a joke out of you, because chances are he’ll do that if he feels rejected all of a sudden, as a way to get his revenge on you. Im sure after that, he wont find the jokes so funny.

Answer #3

I think he’s using you! you’ve been having sex with him for two years and he’s not your boyfriend? yep I think you should stop! if he does eventually come around and want to have sex..you deserve better…someone that will appreciate you

Answer #4

tell him to go fck a tree…dont let this niggh use you like that, and if you dont like it hunny buh, tell him to fuk off, if you dont say nothin, then you seen to like it when he uses u, thass what guys do, most of them are good for nothing pu*ys…good luch (=

Answer #5

sorry to say but your bein used, you should stop what your doin right away. I know from experice that this situation is emotional, and its not the ath you want to go down. You deserve respect, so dont have sex wit anyone who does not deserve it andno matter what demand respect. Blessings

Answer #6

im sorry but your bein used and bein humilated by a guy that only uses you to have sex if he cared the least bit about you noone would know that you guys hookup you dont deserve this please if you want to have sex just get a boyfriend that cares and that you feel attracted to and leave that guy behind because hes a senior hes leavin and if you dont leave him he will and ull be the one to get hurt:)

Answer #7

when he texts you ignor him until he asks why your ignoring him

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