We can't find the internet
Attempting to reconnect
Something went wrong!
Hang in there while we get back on track
Why won't my parents let me move in with my boyfriend?
Im 18 years old almost 19, my father owns a printing company and gave me a job as a receptionist, bought me a 2004 toyota tacoma, and is telling me that I need to start paying the insurance if I don’t start going to school. Im dating a very wonderful man who just lost his father and has to move in with his two friends from high school, they now are renting a very nice house and he asked me to move in with him. I want to move out and get away from my parents and if I move in with him and his friends rent will be cheap and its only ten minutes from where I work, its also very convient for the both of us cause we’ll get to see eachother more often, cause I work days and he works nights….anyway…. to get to the point, I was very excited about the thought of moving in with him but when I talked to my parents about it they got very upset and said that it was a very bad idea because we’re too young and not married my dad also told me that if I do he said that I will no longer have a truck, a job and no money for school, but everyone know that we’re meant to be together, we plan on getting married and my parents know this. When I saw how upset my mom got about the whole thing I just decided to rent an apartment instead, they said they would feel much better about that idea but then they started talking about me moving in with my brother… hes 28 years old and is now going through a divorce and his wife wants to buy him out of the house so he is now living with us. So my parents thought it would be a good idea for us to get a house together, but the thing is since hes divorced hes going to start dating other girls and most likely bringing them home after dates, if you catch my drift and I really don’t want to be around with things like that going on, especially when im sleeping. So, basically I don’t know what to do…. im being pulled three different ways and I don’t know which way to go.
Dear Mickey :
I’m typically not the most traditional thinker, but in general, I think that it’s not the best idea to move in with a BF. I know the reasons seem good and you figure, “why not?” but moving in could jeopardize not only the relationship, but your independence. If you’re thinking long term between the two of you, many argue that a guy won’t marry a girl if they are already living together, because he is “already getting the milk for free”. This isn’t always the case, but it’s worth considering. You know your relationship with this man better than I. Secondly, I know you think that the pair of you will last forever, but what if things don’t work out? Then you’ll be living with him merely to pay bills. It may be better to experience independent life away from your parents and in a different scenario first. Living on your own is a new experience in itself, let alone with a romantic partner.
Secondly you have to consider what you would be losing merely to live with him. Your parents provide many necessities as well as your job now. You would have to find a new job, which could be beneficial if you are trying to separate yourself from them but detrimental if you really value the job. Just know that your family will be there for you like nobody else and they REALLY do have your best interests in mind. They also have life experience that us as their children don’t quite understand until we’re older. Parents tend you know a little more about relationships than we do.
As far as the brother thing, I would say don’t move in with him if you really feel you’ll have issues with it. I don’t think your parents are insisting, just offering another option where you could be independent and still have their approval. At least they are willing to let you move out;)
This being said, you really need to weigh your options and determine how this affects you and those important to you. Is moving in with this boyfriend really worth the cost? After all, you can still have the boyfriend without moving in together.
Well, i mean your 18 almost 19 you should do what you want to do. But i mean if yours parents are going to pay for school you should just do what they want. I mean school gonna cost money, do you have the money? - probably not. So you should just talk to them and cut a deal saying that you will rent a house with your brother and he has the bottom part and you have the top part, so you dont have to hear “noises” from him. I know what your talking about since you love your boyfriend very much, but if parents are going to pay for school. What can i say?
-
my parents wont let me go to church with my boyfriend - 6 Answers
Well my boyfriends papaw died while ws at bball practice and I really need to be there for him so I ask my parents if I could...
-
how can I make my parents to let me go to my boyfriends house? - 2 Answers
my parents dont trust my boyfriend even though my dad has met him they wont let me go to his house even if his mom is home he...
-
Should I move out with my boyfriend? - 1 Answers
I need help!! I just turned 16 yesterday and my boyfriend wants me to move to victoria with him and his family, I am currentl...
-
he won't let me finish him off, boyfriend too shy to cum - 3 Answers
I have been giving my boyfriend handjobs for almost 2 months and he wont let me finish him. Is that normal??? what should I d...
-
Should I let him go since he moved and doesn't call? - 1 Answers
I have a boyfriend that moved to Beloit with his dad. He says he really wants to be with me and wants to spend the rest of hi...
-
im 16 and moving in with my boyfriend with parent permission - 6 Answers
im 16 and my boyfriend is 18 and we've decided to move in together since I just got pregnant with his child.I talked to my mo...
-
How can I get my parents to let me see my boyfriend? - 7 Answers
How can I get my parents to let me see my boyfriend? I am 15 and I just want to see my boyfriend.. Like him come over or som...
-
Boyfriend's parents hate me - 3 Answers
My boyfriends parents hate me, I have been going out with him for 2 years now I have only seen them about 9 times all in all ...
-
Boyfriend moving to university - 1 Answers
What is a girl to do when there boyfriend goes off to university in another city and the relationship is over? please help
-
How to be friends if her boyfriend won't let us? - 2 Answers
k so my freind who lives here in washington with me has a cousin that she introduced to me and weve been talking and stuff an...
Love & Relationships
Dating, Marriage, Breakups
Best 150+ Heart touching love...
Hindi love shayari
Best Mail Order Brides
Dating Services, Matchmaking Services, Relationship Advice
LadaDate
Dating Services, Russian Culture, Relationship Advice
Soul Power Light | Karen Malo...
Personal Development, Coaching, Mindset
FetishSites
Fetish dating, Kinky dating, BDSM dating