Why is my mom so bitter and mean to me?

I suggest both of yall go to church!!!

it must b hard you need 2 tel her how you feel and that she is driving you crazy maybe she doesn’t mean 2 if she doesn t care maybe move out or leave hope this helps x

aw thats sad..maybe you shoudl try talking to your dad. ot thats not an option try talk to your teacher or someone about it. hope I helped.

Call the cops, tell a teacher… You could run away if there’s a homeless shelter nearby. I wouldn’t recommend running away though.

if your so poor, how do you have a computer?

I originally wrote this letter to send to your fun mail and it turns out you only accept fun mail from friends, so I’m just going to post my letter/response here to what I was originally going to write to you. I’d like a reply if possible. Thanks.

Hi, I read your question, and found it to be a bit personal. I know you wanted to ask it aloud to get every one’s opinion, but I think I’d much rather state my opinion under the privacy of a letter, so here it goes.

I am very sorry to hear how your mother is, and I know you’ve probably heard “well I can relate” plenty of times, but I can relate to a point. I may not know how you personally feel, or what your personally going through, but I’ve had my similar times as a child. Growing up, my mom was cool, a very good mother, but around the time I hit 14, her current husband (not my dad) started up on drugs. This action led her to go into a depressed state, and I was the oldest child (my brother was like 9) I was the first to take the heat of her troubles. She wouldnt do anything around the house, and she would make a list the size of a bible of chores for me to do. I would do them ,and my brother would come home from school and ruin everything I just did, and she’d come home from work and call me lazy, a b*,and good for nothing. She’d then apologize, but apologies only go so far, Right?

Shortly after she found out her hub was doing drugs, she divorced, and found someone else. He was a liar, a crazy mother f, and an all time a hole. It was to the point where he was trying to persuade her into getting rid of me and my brother! She was so in love she didn’t see his horrible side, and she just put all the blame on me, saying I needed to leave him alone and what not. I forgot to mension, her druggy husband from earlier, used to beat me. He beat me with anything he could find, hangers, wire hairbrushes, heavy books, boots, what have you. It sucked I won’t lie, but his beatings only made me cry for a short period of time.

Through my life I realized that what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger, and eventually, after the relation with my moms boyfriend didn’t go too well she finally apologized once more, about everything she did. She wasn’t a bad mom, she was just very influenced by the people around her, and she was too blind to notice. Eventually her ex hub came back, and was threatening me to the point where I told him if he didn’t get out I’d kick his a*, and he laughed and told me to punch him in the face and see what happens. He even put his face up into mine, and said “do it I dare you” So of course, I did it. I punched him so hard (with force I didn’t even know I had lol) that his nose started to bleed hardcore, and I just sat there wondering what I did. In that point of time, I knew he was going to beat me, but he didn’t. He looked at me, and actually cried, and walked out of the house.

That was a turning point for me, and basically everything my mother, or any adult ever told me, I never listened to. I eventually met this guy online through a video game, and I was to the point in my life where I wanted to get the heck out of where I was. This guy made me feel special, and was an angel compared to my ex boyfriends (I’m 17 at this point) He is truly a wonderful guy. He heard about everything that happened to me, and he didn’t want me to hurt no more, so he bought me a plane ticket to come move out to him. I always took the words “Don’t give internet people information or meet with them in person because they could be a killer” Into mind, because my mom would remind me 24/7 about it; but at this point, I didn’t even care anymore. I guess you can say, I was happy to know someone loved me, but if he did infact turn out to be a killer, I didn’t care anymore.

I moved out with him, after I told my mom “Either you can let me go now, or wait til I turn 18 in 3 months and if you make me wait, you’ll never see me again” and eventually she let me go. A lot of people talked crap to her asking how heartless she could be to let me go, but it wasn’t an easy task for her.

To this day, I’m 21 years old. You remember that guy I moved out with? I am still with him, and he is amazing. We’ve been on a journey ourselves in the past 4 years, good and bad, and yet we let nothing mess up our relationship. As for my mom, whenever I moved out with him, I promised myself to never talk to my mom again. I eventually matured, and realized what life and stress does to people, and even though my mom treated me the way she did, I don’t hold grudges. I know a lot of those fights she was just trying to do what was best for me, some of those fights she did out of anger towards her own life.

What I am trying to say is, I know you have hatred towards your mother, and you wish she would be dead, but you still have quite a while before your 18. Has your mother always been this way, or was she nice at some point? Drugs tend to have a bad influence on people, so maybe…if you have a family member who is willing to take you in for a while, you can tell teh police that your mom needs drug help. Don’t purposely try to get her in trouble, that will only make it worse. If you say your mom is on drugs, and treats you bad, they will take you off of her, and eventually once those drugs wear off she’ll realize what she did and what kind of mother she became. That won’t make it better, trust me.

As far as the abuse goes, I really suggest talking to someone at your school. Not talking about it will just make it worse as well. If you can find a relative who can watch over you, or even a friend, I suggest doing so as well. She may also treat you that way because she is around you 24/7, and she may just want her alone time for a while. People like that, it’s best to give them their alone time, so they eventually realize what they once had is gone ,and they will appreciate that person more.

Sorry for the long story, Your story touched me though, and it brought back memories of my past, and I know you don’t know me but feel free to write to me whenever you need to talk. I’m a good listener, and a great talker as you can see lol. For now, I suggest you find some other adult who can treat you more like a child, than a human punching bag. I hope I helped some, and I hope you get to read all of this. I also hope that everything goes well between your mom. If I remember correctly, you said you were female, and the bond between a mother and daughter is supposed to be wonderful, not something you regret. I really hope your mom finds help soon, because she may not realize that one day you will be all she has in life.

Hope I brought the stress down some,

Wayke

I am sure your mother loves you but drugs make people selfish and unloving. I see that you have the internet, if your mother can afford the internet she should be able to afford food for you. Please ask your school guidance counselor for help. Don’t give up on yourself, you will grow up to be a very strong young woman if you stay focused on surviving right now. Do what you need to do to graduate, try and get good grades, get a student loan and go to college. Ask the guidance counselor how you can obtain help from the state. Make something of yourself. That is all you can do. If you pray a little that always helps me. Please just don’t give up and remember that this is your moms problem, you have done nothing wrong and she is sick

Hi 15 in Pennsylvania, First I have a lot of compashtion for you. I wish your didn’t have this totally life is unfair problem. Please consider going to Al-anon or Al-teen. This problem is way to big for you to handle all by yourself. you can download other kids srories from XA-SPEARERS.org

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I was just at the site and don’t see stuff by teens like you but give it a try there must be stories very simular to yours if you look around.

Your not alone but you must find help keep reaching out. you did the right thing by writing in here and keep it up. Please don’t dispair. Don’t give up. Some day it will get better.