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Why is my biological mom acting like this?

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So.. long story short, I'm adopted. I came into contact for the first time with my biological mom in August of 08. We talked almost everyday.. deep conversations, anything you could think of! I know it's weird that at that point we hadn't met in person yet, but I definitely felt a connection. The kind of connection lucky people have with their parents that I never REALLY felt with my adoptive parents. Anyways... so sometimes she would kind of disappear and I couldn't get a hold of her, but no biggie. She was sick for a few months, then got better. Then I was sick with mono for several months, so our contact was on/off for a while. Then in June of 09, I went with a friend to San Francisco to meet her. She was there on vacation with some of her friends. I thought it went great! Wasn't awkward.. we didn't have much alone time because there were always people around, but she came out to where I lived a couple months later and it was pretty much all alone time. Ok.. fast forward a few months. I moved to a different state. Couple months later, she and her partner moved over here too. They literally were 10 minutes from me. She kept talking the talk, but not really following through. I know she's super smart, and also really great with words...I felt like she really did care, and we were actually going to have some sort of normal relationship! My best friend and I always invited them everywhere... I had a great birthday dinner with all of them. But I have tried so many times to spend time with her, and almost every time she has bailed. And THEN when SHE has time, and I am busy... she gets all butt-hurt that I can't be with her. It's like she only wants to spend time with me when it's convenient for HER. Well, turns out she and her partner are apparently moving back to their old place in UT (I'm in CO) next week. So knowing that, you'd think she'd want to hang out with me as much as possible, right? I feel like I've messed up, or done something wrong, or not met expectations or something. Which deep down I know isn't right, because I have tried my hardest and sacrificed my time to fit her schedule. Enough was enough the other day when she had said she would come watch me train horses (my job). Of course, I never heard from her that morning. Then she texts me saying she was up late... I'm thinking, hell... if I were her, I wouldn't care if I hadn't gotten 5 minutes of sleep, I'd at least stop by the barn to say hello briefly! Oy. She and her partner were supposed to make one trip back to UT on Wednesday and then come back to CO for the rest of their stuff. Didn't hear from them so I thought they were in UT... guess they never left here. Then she posts something on a social site about how she's got nothing to do and is going to play Farmville. I was like... are you KIDDING ME!? Here you are, flaking out on me all the time, you're moving away in a week... you have nothing to do, so rather than seeing if I'm available (which I am, I'm working at the barn every day, but am finished early afternoons) she's sitting around playing some virtual farming game on her computer. I guess I just don't understand. She was adopted too.. and never found her birthmom. She told me she always wished she could have a relationship with her birthmom. Yeah well, I would have liked that too. What do I do? Or say to her? I was planning on showing up the morning they leave, and helping them pack up. So at least they couldn't move back and trash talk about how I never tried. It's pretty hard for me to be mad at someone, but it actually kind of hurts. I really don't think I had high expectations at all?? And not once did they ever invite me over to their place. The only time I've been over there was when I surprised them on a bike ride. I just have given up I guess. She sent me texts saying she was sorry, etc... to which I still haven't replied and don't really intend to. I wish I knew what was going through her head. And no, I can't tell all of this to her, or tell her how I feel, or what I'm thinking because she gets upset easily. And the last thing I want to do is hurt her feelings. Do I just be blunt and tell her? There really is no nice way of telling someone that they've been a flake and don't show that they care. Who knows, maybe she doesn't want her biological daughter in her life afterall but is afraid to say it? It's not like I ask her to pay for anything. All I wanted was communication, and to maybe see each other once a week... you'd think that wouldn't be hard considering their duplex is close enough for my to ride a bike or walk my dogs. I'm not really looking for advice... but maybe just thoughts as to what she might be feeling, cause I've been trying to figure it out and really am clueless! Thanks in advance...