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Why is he saying this?

Please don’t judge me, I just need some help about this guy.

Alright there is this guy that I have known for a while and well enough to have sex with. I thought it was the last time I would hear from him because he was told me goodbye and good luck at getting a boyfriend (even though I don’t want one).

A few weeks later he texted me in the middle of the night, asking me if he could come over because he wanted more but I couldn’t because I had stuff to do in the morning.

Then couple of days later a friend of his wanted to hook up with me because his buddy (the guy I had sex) said that I was cool. I got really mad so I texted him asking why he handed out my number and he texted me back saying all this degrading stuff about his friend and I. Like we would make a great couple because he was a nerd, virgin, no friends, ect. So I told his friend exactly what his buddy said to him and his friend said that he would talk to him. I get a texted message from the guy saying he was sorry and asking me to stop saying stuff to his friend.

Couple of weeks later I was horny and thought of him so I decided to ask him if he was still interested in having sex. He was surprised because he said that he though I hated him and then he asked me a bunch of questions. Like why I wanted to have sex with him, what I wanted to do with him, and he kept saying I wasn’t sure because he doesn’t think I’m being real. That the only way to make him believe me is if I send him pics, which I told him no. So he asked me when and where but then didn’t say anything else after that. I’m extremely confused by him and I need help at understanding him. Please help?

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Answer #1

Fallenmoo, making another profile isnt going to get you the answers you want to hear. You’ve asked this same question again, & again, and EVERYone has been telling you the same thing! That this guy is just USING you, but you just wont listen! This is the 10th question you’ve posted on this guy. I would have to say you are OBSESSED with him.

He wants to know why you want to have sex with him…so you need to ask yourself that very same question! Your not in a relationship with him, and it cant be because your “horny”, otherwise you wouldnt be here asking why hes saying this, and doing that! There is really nothing to be confused about, because if you cant see that you are just being used, then we cant help you! Being a guys booty call isnt going to make you his girlfriend, so why do you keep going back to him?

Among the young, who typically do not yet know how to establish equality or mutuality in relationships, friends with benefits frequently functions to service the physical needs of boys while overlooking the more subtle emotional needs of girls. Women are pretty much wired to form emotional attachments to a guy they are intimate with. That’s why having friends with benefits can get confusing. You feel attached to him, expect him to feel the same about you and so you want him to demonstrate some caring, certainly by not being overly affectionate with other girls. But he won’t even recognize a relationship. Result: You’re distressed.

It’s best for your own soul to reserve sexual intimacy for relationships where there are clear signs of affection both ways. Otherwise, you’re just going to keep going down the same one-way street named disappointment.

Answer #2

Tell this guy to get lost. Get your mind on other things and if necesary other guys. This will be the start of many problems for you down the road…let this one go before this really comes back to hurt and haunt you.

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