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One of my closest guy friends has been acting a little differently and im not sure how I feel about him. All of a sudden I find myself wanting to talk to him whether it be online or in class all the time and I smile whenever I see him walk in the door because I know he's gonna make me laugh throughout the class and brighten my day. He is a flirt, but now its gotten a little more than just "friendly flirting" you could say. I've known him since 7th grade and we've been in at least one class together every since freshman year of HS (were seniors now). He always makes fun of me and jokes around with me, some people may take that as flirting. last year, even our teacher asked our other friend if we were going out!! (we werent and never have) he sits right behind me in class this year and will sometimes play with my hair, we both play volleyball and he wants me to go to every game. I missed one home game last week and I had to make him brownies so he would forgive me and he now expects me at every home game. We are always partners for projects. Last year, us and our other friend had to make a music video for a project and we did it to "love story" by taylor swift. I was "juliet" and he was "romeo". Then this year, he left me a voicemail on my phone at 1am and he was singing the song! He had no idea what the lyrics were but he was saying "I am romeo and you are juliet" over and over and "its a love story baby just say yes". when it came up a few days ago, at first he claimed it was his friend singing but then later he said it was irrelevent to what we were talking about. The wierdest thing is, HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND! and they've been going out for awhile, last year when they started we all thought he had had a girlfriend just so he could have a girlfriend but there still together and on a social site there "engaged". why would he do all this and act the way he is if he has a girlfriend???
My friend thinks he likes me, she says the way he talks with me and his girlfriend are completely different
what do you think? sorry this is so long but im just confused and not sure if its just innocent friend stuff or something more.
I was the same way with my best guy friend, I think we totally loved each other, but for some reason we never dated. I mean if I had a boyfriend or he had a girlfriend it was weird we still went to prom and homecomings together! His girlfriend's ultimately hated me, but I wasn't trying for that we had been besties since Freshman year, he was always in at least one of my classes, but one year we had every class together. We drove to school together, we left school together, we got in trouble for ditching school together! ha One time his dad came home and asked him if he had a girl inside and he said yea caitlyn and his dad said oh we'll talk about this later because he just knew we were buddies not doing anything bad like having sex, but both of us got grounded for skipping! Either way the point of my advice is I think you should just be friends, but if there ever came a time you were romantically interested in him it seems like he would drop anything for you! He is probably only dating someone else because he was tired of waiting to see if you two were ever going to date? I know my best friend constantly told me he would love to date me, and always said he didn't think my boyfriend's were good enough for me...
Just follow you heart I guess...
im no girl but I can tell you straight and certain... he feels good with you and really likes you... he knows he has a girl but he wants her to be you... dont ask him out unless you see no end to his growing fliring if he rejects you then do what I do... I have a girlfriend in missuri and im in oklahoma... me and her are best of the best and love the heck out of eachother but this girl flirts with me and when she takes me to church she takes my hand and puts it really high on her leg... just reverse that to your terms anf you see you and him dont have to go out but you can still technicly be together regaurdledess of the other girl but in a nut shell... HE LOVES YOU maybe not love but REALLY REALLY LIKES
Hmmm. Well, I'm no specialist at this by any means, but it seems that regardless of either of your feelings, you should respect his girlfriend as long as she is in the picture. You don't want her to get hurt because you two have feelings for each other, do you?
Also, if he was seriously in love with you, he probably wouldn't still be dating someone else.
Hope this helps you sort it out some. :]
your best bet sit him down be real with him and ask him if he really is a great friend he will be completely honest with you trust your heart
