Why isn't our sex life no what it used to be?

ok (speaking from somewho has had similar problems…)

there are MANY factors to consider first (I know you’ve probably heard them all…) however..

how much are both of you working? how much time is consumed by stressfull activitys during the day? etc

thing is, sex with a long term partner is as much of a reflection of the way the person feels ABOUT the person, as in the way they are being treated etc, rather than how much they ‘fancy’ them..

what’s changed in your relationship? my friend is in a long term relationship and she has TOTALLY gone off sex, I think it’s been months she he and her, erm, were productive??…thing is..is not that she doesn’t fancy him, she does, she finds him very attractive…but she’s unhappy in the relationship in other ways… she feels over demanded in loads of other areas of her life and feels A) that she hasn’t got the energy for it…and B) that she kind of resents him for not helping out more..

to be honest, this isn’t a fine art..there is no ‘ONE’ answer…I think it’s really important to look at your relationship as a whole as see if there is anything you are unhappy about, frustrated with etc…sex in an extension part of a relationship, it’s something that is the ultimate form of affection…but it is the last level..so you have to make sure other areas of your life are being fullfilled, before you can be 100% sexually fulfilled…

also…I you finding it a bit repetative? same position / length / times etc..if so, you just may need to be more experimental…as long as you’re both comfortable with you’re doing, then enjoy it…

and even when you do…imagining yourself with someone else isnt unheard of…but if you don’t like it, and up until recently you have concentrated on your other half, I would hazard a guess that t here may be something else bothering you.

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