Why don't girls defend them selfs?

Not everyone reacts the same way when they are in a stressful situation. Some people are in shock and aren’t able to react. Others are too scared to say anything because they feel helpless or that it’s there fault. Some people just don’t want to be hurt and think that if they don’t say anything it will all just go away.

It’s important to be understanding of others and their reactions. You shouldn’t judge someone because they didn’t react the way you would have or think you would have. It’s important to remember that we should listen and help the victim, not make them feel guilty or that it was their fault. After all, it’s the aggressor that is in the wrong. The person that chose to harm another is the one that is in the wrong, not the person that is being harmed.

I also think it’s important to talk about this stuff amongst out friends, tell them how we lived through aggression, how we reacted ourselves and how scared we felt. A lot of people live through sexual abuse but are to embarrassed or feeling guilty about it to talk about it. Instead of getting angry at the victim, we should pull together to go after the aggressor.