Why does my hubby make me feel guilty when I hang out with my bro?

Well, if the guy is not your blood relative..then ya. Those things you describe are primarily shared between lovers and lifemates. I only rarely share food like that with my siblings. I only do those other things with my love.

You can talk it out with him, but in my perspective, while I don’t think jealousy is right, I wouldn’t consider it unusual in this instance.

Also, maybe there’s a reason your husband feels this way, besides jealousy? Maybe he feels you’re not spending enough time with him?

There could be something in what Hivetyrant says that your hubby might not just be jealous at your brother, but also that he feels neglected… You say “…every time my brother and I hang out…” that sounds to me like it’s rather often… perhaps once every week or two weeks.. or perhaps more… (if more then no wonder your hubby is jealous… if it’s just that 1 time every week or second week, then he might be bit over the edge, although I have to admit I’d be over the edge with jealousy too… if less then I think it’s your hubby who is overreacting a little)

Since your brother is not blood related and the two of you get along very well, then it will be seen as a threat against your hubby’s relationship with you and that’s why he is reacting like he does. Perhaps cause you seem to have more fun with your brother (or as much) as when you’re having fun with your hubby. It’s happened many times before that siblings not by blood been ending up together… I remember an article in the newspaper not that long ago about a couple raised as siblings got married before their parents. I am not saying that’s what’s going on between you and your brother… you’ve already told nothing like that is going on… but imaging if your hubby had read an article like that in the newspaper… how do you think it would make him feel when he starts to think about the happiness you have with your brother?

Please trust me when I say I am not trying to make you feel guilty… I am just trying to give up suggestions about what your hubby might be fearing, so you can see what the issue might really be and be able to do something about it or talk with him about it. He sees signals you n’ your brother shows each other, and believe there’s a bigger meaning behind, steal those thoughts away from your hubby… help him to trust you more. Cause if you don’t do anything about it, who knows if he’ll be able to take it/accept it in the long run… jealousy, fear and anger changes people if noone calms em down.

I don’t want you to think you should change your relationship with your brother though… that would be unfair on you when you got such a good friendship. Your hubby needs to realize that you are only brother and sister in your eyes, and that nothing will change that… You shouldn’t chain up family connection just because of a little jealousy.

Well, just be supportive of him, keep talking about it, and maybe compromise a little. On both of your parts.