why do people always tell me sex is a big deal?

I think what you said above just reinforces the reasons why there is a legal age limit for having sex.

So you appear to be saying that teens have sex because adults don’t leave them alone?

You are only 13, you are still a child.

You have not experienced life yet, you know nothing about the struggles you face in the future and like a lot of teens, you think you know it all and that adults and parents are just there to spoil your fun.

You have not done yourself any favours by what you have said and I don’t believe you speak on behalf of all teens, some of whom DO have a sensible approach to sex.

There are so many instances where teen girls are talked into sex or just do it because they think it will make the guy stay with them.

A couple of things that may surprise you:

1. Teens did not invent sex.

2. Adults have been having sex far longer and usually DO know a lot more about it than teens.

3. Teens are NOT experts on sexual matters. (Although many think they are)

You say, ‘kids are ganna do it sooer or later so who gives a care?’ Many adults and parents ‘give a care’!

They dont want to see their 13 or 14 year old get pregnant.

They do not want to see her catch a sexual disease.

They do not want to see her catch HIV or Hepatitis.

They do not want to see her go through the emotional heartbreak when it becomes apparrant that she is not emotionally mature enough to cope with the responsibilities that come with having sex.

Sex is not a game. Virginity is not something you should give a guy behind the bike shed at school like giving him a cigarette.

You are only 13, you are still a child and you are clearly a very immature 13 year old. From some of the advice we see on this site, there are clearly some very mature 13 year olds out there but you are certainly not one of those.

I would suggest you stick to watching Disney cartoons and playing with your dolls and leave the thinking and doing of sex to the grown ups.

Just my own opinions.

Kiasu

hi… I am 13 also and I dont see why you should wait to have sex eather because if you just use protection then what will happen. it feels good I here. and I wont to know what it feels like. realy badly

Ok I see where you all are coming from. I under stand. Im also very very good at saying no,but you have 2 think.If someone always tells you cant do this and you cant do that then you are bound to do something your not saposed to.people at my school are very honest to them selfs. If they do have sex they know what might and will happen.(most girls atmy school have sex at 13-15 years old)I’ve taken a poll to seec what people think about school about haveing sex and most people think they should if they want. Its no prob. to do it only…you have to think about what happens after.If ou do have sex with a guy you cant go back to holding hands.

I underatnd where you are coming from but having just came out of my teenage years and matured somewhat I see why they do it. Remeber that at your age your hormones are playing a big part in your life and naturally you uite like to rebel and want to start making your own choices. If you ever have kids you will want them to be careful and not have sex when they are a KID . You will also be more aware of the worries of the older people looking at the younger ones today who have sex more get pregnant more and get pressured into these things more. All they CAN do is talk to you and advise you…try not to make it hard for them, Tell them they can trust you and try ignore it if they dont seem to. Be mature and show that you are responsible. They will recognise this and it earns you a lot more respect. Sex can be simple and it can be complicated but its true that first sex and young relationships are very emotional and are not to be rushed into. I have sooo many friends with regrets- just shows its worth waiting to do these things when you are older and more clued up on yourself and your body. You are probably an intelligent young girl and starting to know what you are going to want from life, just respect parents for looking out for you and try not to let it wind you up too much x