Why do people assume that women are helpless if they're raped?

When people are told about a serious situation like that, they often respond with stupid remarks because they are inadequate at giving any real advice or support.

Try not to take it personally, but do seek help from a therapist to work through this difficult time…you have a lot of healing to do.

Because people are stupid. And scared. If you were raped then anyone could be raped. That’s a hard thing to live with. It is a lot easier to say, if it had been me I would have done this. It’s hard to admit some things are just not in your control. But that is their problem. Not yours.

Anger makes it worse. Take a walk and burn it off. I think rapists forfeit their human rights. They should be emasculated, lobotomized, and enslaved. People who try to defend rapists for any reason are also not human, and should be executed. The victim’s ability do defend themselves has nothing to do with any of this.

Lots of people think I’m weak and I got away and it’s bad enough to have that happen to you without people treating you like a baby. what people used say to me made sometimes wish I had been raped because at lest I won’t be scared to have sex now.

You can not ever think that it would have been better not to get away. You were brave and strong and every woman who has ever been raped cheers with you that you were able to escape whether from fight, determination or sheer luck.

I have a bit of advise for you actually. There is a great website that really helps. It is called dailystrength.org you should look it up.