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why do I still miss her?

Hey everyone,

My ex g/f cheated and lied to me, left me for this bloke who is a known womaniser and complete arse. I wouldve done anything for her, really wouldve done, but after all the awful feelings she put me through, why do I still feel like we shoud still be together? I get moments when I miss her so much and I want to contact her, but I manage to stop myself. I long to be holding her again, it used to feel so good being that close to her. We were together for 1 1/2 years and lived together for 10 months, then the bombshell that she was moving out. I lost her to someone who will only hurt her, she has had a crap life, her mum treated bad by her dad and step dad, her mums not alive anymore, her sisters are also in crap situations. I thought that someone would grab a good thing with both hands? She couldnt get enough of me last year and then this guy at her work charms his way in and now they are together and im still, after 2 months, wandering what went wrong. I do want her back, but it wouldnt be right, would it?

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Answer #1

Don’t feel bad for wanting her back. You have just been with her so long that you’re not use to being without her. Time will past and you will get over her, but if you’re “in love with her” than you will always have a place for her in your heart no matter what. I don’t know if you’re in love with her or not cause I’m not you, but I know that you do care for a lot by what you wrote. It’s alright to miss her and to want her back. It’s nothing bad at all. If it was meant to be than she will come back to you, but if not then you gotta be happy for her. Let me ask you this. Do you care for her so much that you are willing to let her go and want her to be happy with whoever she is with? Hope this helps. Best of wishes.

-Rebelchick

Answer #2

she just feels special because a womaniser goes with soo many girls and yet he chooses her…? like is there sumone you like and think you cant have? how would it feel like to get them.. (sumone that seems hard 2get??)

just wait until he starts to treat her like all the rest of the woman he treats..! also loook athow long they are going ith each other..

and rem she will rem you x

Answer #3

aw now im sad. i dont know what you should do because i suck at all relationship stuff but i do hope everything works out. It sounds like you deserves someone better anyways;)

-J

Answer #4

I was with a guy for two years and he cheated on me and lied to me the whole time. i still miss him, and i still want him everyday. what you’re going through is normal and the truth is that the only cure really is time. it will get better.. or so im told. try to move on and meet people. someone who will care for u as much as you care for them. and someone who wont cheat on you or lie to you. if u dont want anyone new, just try to move on anyways. u need closure. i understand why u would still care for her even though she cheated.. you probably look past the bad and just think about how much fun and happiness you had with her. i know i felt like that. maybe your upset about the fact that she moved on so easily and you still miss her and want her. but the truth is you CAN be happier or at least just as happy with someone else who will not cheat on you. you dont diserve that. she didnt treat you with the respect you diserved hun. let her be happy and start concentrating on making yourself happy. goodluck sugar.

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