why do I keep wanting to sleep with random guys?

I have a boyfriend who I keep breaking up with but go back to all the time. I don’t love him but I say I do because he loves me and I don’t want to lose that. I lost my virginity to him the beginning of this year. anyways I go on craigslist looking for FWB and just do them but I never enjoy it. I just want to do someone but I don’t understand why. I had one FWB and he was great in bed and was really nice but I broke it off because we were beginning to know each other and that freaked me out. every time I go and do a guy I tell myself I won’t do it again because I didn’t enjoy it at all but yet I go back and do someone else. my boyfriend knows nothing of this but I’m ashamed of it yet can’t control it. it’s not hormones because I’d feel guilty, and I’m not even enjoying the sex or the thoughts of them. whats wrong with me??? does anyone do this? how do I control it??? please help. any advice.

Answer #1

well, your cheating on your boyfreind and dont love him yet wont break up with him because he loves you so in short, you wont do it because you dont want to make him mad, or dont want to deal with the pain he would feel if you broke up with him and all of that is wrong you NEED to break up with your boyfreind because you are not treating him right if he was treating you the same way, and sleeping with other girls behind your back how would you feel? would you want to be with him? probably not and I doubt hed want to be with someone whos cheating on him so you need to end it because it will be better for both of you

as for the cheating and wanting sex from random guys its probably comming from the fact that your in a relationship with someone who you dont love. if you dont love him then you dont love having sex with him, and want to be with soemone else and have sex with someone else

you should also talk to a therapist or councellor because you sound like you need some help and advice on what your doing and how it can affect you, your life, and the lives of the people your doing it to

Answer #2

your terrible person just leave that guy alone and if you want to hook up with other random guys then do it but that guy that you keep dumping might have feelings for you so ending it would be best

Answer #3

maybe you shud try therapy or one of those anonymous groups(not saying your crazy or anything) but those tend to help people and get them on the right track.

Answer #4

You know, I really want to know why girls do this. I have a problem as well. My girlfriend lost her virginity to me when she was 19. I lost mine when I was 13, and since I was 13, I have taken 7 virginities so far. And for some reason, this girl that I’m with now gives me these images in my head of her having sex with random guys. See, she’s done slutty things with guys I know, but none of them say she had sex with them, and she says the same. But for some reason, it’s probably a trust issue, I can’t believe her. So it almost turns me on that she could have had sex with some random dudes. I mean, she told me she was at a (concert) and she was dancing with this guy she didn’t know, and they started making out. A complete stranger. Ever since she told me that, I’ve been oddly disgusted with promiscuity. Before being with this girl, I didn’t think twice of who I slept with, whos virginity I took, who I made out with. But I guess I really love her, and wish I coulda stopped her from doing those things, like making out with a stranger. Making out. That bothers me? Imagine if she told me she was like you? I’d vomit out of jealousy. So I have a question for you. Girls know that guys just want to get laid, yes? They know this. You’re raised to think this. Guys just wanna get in your pants. So girls should have a guard up. Girls should have some self respect and with knowing that guys are just sex craved animals, girls should have some dignity and not let just anyone put their thing inside of them. UNLESS it’s what they want, which in your case it is. I mean, how hard would it have been for my girlfriend to just push that stranger off of her and say no? Was it hard? When I asked her why she did it she said she wasn’t thinking. But it should be a girls instinct to push someone away if they don’t know them. So my question is HOW DO YOU DO IT? I mean, you’re basically a p star. But you don’t get paid. Your V WORD is something that should be saved for something hot and romantic and meaningful. The best sex I’ve had is with girls who really really want me, not some easy piece of ass at a party. You may think it’s a double standard and use it to justify you being such a complete slught, that old saying “Why when a guy sleeps with 20 girls he’s a legend, but when a girl screws 2 guys she’s a hore?” COS YOU’RE A GIRL. Girls are beautiful and precious and guys are just.. guys. You don’t feel guilty letting a random stranger come inside of you? Where the guy that really loves you for who you are should be coming? You’re easy, you have absolutely, positively, definitely no respect for yourself. I’ve seen videos where a drunk girl will be at a party getting screwed by a random dude, and it makes me wonder what the hell happened in her past to make her such an empty blow up doll. Unless, you just like sex? I think they call it a nympho?

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