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Why do I feel guilty / bad?

ok so I have a boyfriend we’ve been going out for a year. & hes very jealous like I cant talk to any guys or anything. & like I have this friend whos in the navy and I havent seen him in years and like we used to write to eachother through a social site but then my boyfriend made me delete my a social site & I stopped talking to my friend btw my friend knows I have a boyfriend and everything were very close.. and like now I just received a text from him saying he was coming down here to visit his mom and he wanted to see if he could come visit me. for some reason I feel bad bec I know my boyfriend wouldnt do this to me behind my back but im scared to tell my boyfriend bec I really dont want to argue we argue almost everyday and its getting annoying. & I dont know why I feel bad if like its not like im doing anything wrong if my parents are going to be here and everything gosh I dont knoww what to do.. :(

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Answer #1

Ok. So. You fight all the time with your boyfriend (I assume this does not make you happy) Your boyfriend is very jealous ( assume this does not make you happy) Your boyfriend does not allow you to do certain things (I’ll reserve comment on this) (I assume this does not make you happy) Your boyfriend is cutting you off from your friends (I assume this does not make you happy) Your boyfriend is causing you stress because you have no idea what you’re going to do with your own family (I assume this does not make you happy) Your boyfriend is manipulating your emotions so that you feel that you are to blame for his feelings, his anger and his jealousy, which are not in your control (I assume this does not make you happy)

So. Why are you with this guy who isnt making you happy. You love him? Why on earth do you love someone who is doing this to you? He’s not going to change. So forget about that. Therefore you must believe that you either cannot find someone else or that you dont deserve to be happy. Leave him. This has got to be the most textbook case of how an abusive relationship develops. And the women are always surprised.

Answer #2

Honestly… get out while you can. This sounds like the typical start of an abusive relationship. Jealousy leads to words which leads to actions. If he is so bad that he actually made you delete a myspace account just for talking to a friend, he clearly has some issues.

Answer #3

Be strong and break it off with him. I was in a jealous relationship and he turned abusive. DO NOT put up with that jealousy. He is CONTROLLING you. It will be easier to get out now than later. I waited 2 years and wish I did it sooner. The good thing is, now I will NEVER let a man control me or hit me ever again.

Answer #4

visit yer friend! he was yer friend before yer boyfriend came along.yer boyfriend needs to stop being so controlling he has no right to tell you who to tlk to and what not, do whatever you want its not like your doing anything wrong.

Answer #5

just tell him your going to visit your friend. be honest. he should trust you if he really loves you.

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