Why do I feel depressed?

I always seem to feel sad and alone. I get good grades, I have friends who say they care about me, I’m skinny, but I have self esteem issues. Why do I always feel so depressed like no one cares about me and im just some ugly nerd? any help?

Answer #1

I’m 24, a UCLA graduate, and I think I’ve been very successful at most things I’ve ever tried to do… my family loves me, and I have plenty of friends in my life who I would do anything for. I’ve experienced bad depression off and on for the past 10 or 15 years… it usually lasts for a week or two and then fades away. Earlier in my life it would come back after a week, and then as I got older it came back less and less frequently; now I’m up to about 6 months to a year between episodes of depression. When I am depressed, I just feel empty, as if I am totally alone in the world, and that nobody knows how I terrible I feel or wants to know. I feel like I am just falling into a pit and there’s nothing I can do about it. I feel so bad that I start to hate myself and the way I feel, and because I can’t help it, I feel like something is just inherently wrong with me, and that makes me hate myself even more. And because I just know that the depression is going to come back again, I feel like I’m going to have to live with this for the rest of my life… and that’s REALLY depressing. When I’m depressed I pretty much think about suicide all day until I feel so full of pain that at the end of the day I just come home and have to lie in bed and cry for awhile until I feel empty again… not in a good way though, just empty of feeling, including pain. This makes me think that the only escape from the pain really is suicide. So the cycle begins again. It really helped me recently when I found out that I am not the only person who feels this way… there are other people out there who have this problem. I also have finally told my family and some other people that I feel this way, and finally being able to accept this and share this problem with others has made me feel a LOT better. This is a problem that shouldn’t be hidden or ashamed of; I think I’m going to find a therapist and try to actually get some real help instead of trying to tackle it alone. There’s nothing wrong with asking someone else for help; because there’s got to be a way of solving this problem, but I’m pretty sure someone else has already figured it out. So why waste time trying to do it all on my own? Anyway… you’re not alone. Tell the people who love you about this problem. Find help. You can do it. :)

Answer #2

your worth is not what you look like on the outside but what you are on the inside. You have so much to offer the world so get out there and kick butt and show everyone you are worth knowing and YOU ARE WORTH A MILLION BUCK!

Answer #3

You are depressed because you have not found a way to feel needed.

I don’t know how its done. But we all want a reason to live.

Until then. Fear of death or disappointment keeps you going. I hope you find a way to feel needed…or a way to suppress it enough to survive…though living an ignorant or shallow life isn’t a solution either.

Answer #4

Listen I know how you feel. I’ve had depression for four years and Im diagnosed bi-polar on top of that I have to deal with addiction everyday but the way I get through my days is thinking about the future. I think about what I have rather then what I dont and I know that sounds corny but trust me I’ve been to 2 pysche wards and 1 drug in patient and about 3 out patient drug rehabs so this is what works for me. Just have to think about what makes you happy pretty much. Think about what will be rather than what will never be. Things like that. Keep yourself busy so you don’t always feel so alone.

Answer #5

Lol you are thinking about it to much Now I am convinced you should look into the law of attraction and the secret.. got o www.thesecret.tv and i think you will be amazed at what you find..read about the law of attraction some where there are many sites…but if you can come to grasp with how strong your mind really is and how our thoughts reality do become our reality..then i think you will find your self happier… also another thing that might help..is every day right down ten things that stood out to you for that day …ten things you can be greatful for and that you not have seen or what not had you not been alive for that day.. it can be silly little things..but do that every day.. I know the hole thing sounds silly but I do ( honestly I do) I have struggled with depression and on and off all my life and am now dealing with a label called Chronic PTSD…I hate labels..people so often tend to live up to them after all.. this really did help though I had been contemplating Suicide a lot and it really did help about two weeks into it i was able to see things..that made life easier to live with..I also changed my out look and by simply changing your thoughts…I was amazed at what I found.. Don’t dwell on the Negative and try to always Look for the positive also do the things that make you happy and imagine the life that you wont…you really can build it…I never thought I would go to college and I never thought i could do it so many people told me I never would…I made most of the time straight A’s but it just did not seem like enough..at least to me…Then a lot of things happened in my life that changed my out look the people who where always putting me down where no longer allowed in my life ( ended up in Foster Care) and who replaced them in away was a group of people who really do care when they don’t even have to and who saw my potential and encouraged me to reach for the stars..and helped me believe that i could do what ever I set my mind to do and I couldn’t do what ever I let my self fail at. I started believing in my self…and I did it I graduated high school a year early…and i start college in Jan..even better I am not paying for any of it It is all paid for…by Scalar ships.

There is nothing wrong with being a quote on quote “NERD” lol take a look at history and who helped shape the world we live in to day…lol NERDS..did…

There are plenty of people in the world who have similar interest and what not…we are born into a family of chance we don’t choose our family but one day we do get to choose a family of choice and who we do and don’t wont in out lives..pick people who make you feel good and like you..who except you as you are and lift you up when your down.

Good Luck and Please contact me and let me know how you are doing every now and then.

Dark Wolf

Answer #6

sheesh,everyone in my home feels down every now and then so it does occur to everyone.Keep doin well and believe in your self.Get active and put your mind to it.Feel better bye

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Answer #7

Surprisingly, everyone may get depressed at some point in life; I don’t mean the blues…I mean depressed. If I were you I would look into getting help, I waited a very, very long time to get help, and I don’t advise that. Something else for you to think about is that depression does run families. That being said one or both of your parents may also be depressed and you not know it; so it will not hurt to talk to them. Remeber, you are NEVER alone.

Answer #8

Dear broadwaystar101, If you are experiencing these feelings more than a month then I suggest you go see a doctor. There is no need for anyone to be depressed and to feel this way. When we are depressed we have what is called faulty thinking so we kind of twist things a bit a we think no one cares and we aren’t good enough…in reality this isn’t so but because we have the faulty thinking we find it hard to believe otherwise. This is were your doctor comes in…they will recommend a good counsellor and perhaps medications to help. There is no need these days for anyone to go through this with all the help we have. Sue…good luck

Answer #9

Don’t dwell on it. If you feel sorry for yourself too much, it will show. You need to gain some self confidence, perhaps look into finding a positive role model. Search the web or T.V. for a powerful feminine figure for some inspiration. If you think you are not attractive, you will appear not attractive. Believe you are beautiful and, well, do I have to say? Get playful with your look if you decide to make changes, but all in all BE YOURSELF.

Answer #10

hey don’t worry , whats the use of worrying so much ?? your problems are not reducing are they ???

Want to try something DIFFERENT ??? just do the following RIGHT NOW ;

1–chant ‘hari om’(hari as in HURRY & om as in HOME without the ‘H’) do this repetedly & a point will come where you will feel like you just want to close your eyes ( in that case case do it).At this point increase the number of O in om like HARI OOOM & then HARI OOOM & so on.when you chant this VEDIC MANTRA then remain silent (no thinking!,fidgeting,moving,etc) for an amount of time taken to chant this one mantra.this looks very very simple but its effects are very very very large (even ALBERT EINSTEIN would not had imagine it !!!). this is called ‘CHUP SADHANA’ & I learned it from ‘param pujya ASARAMJI bapu’.—>”www.asharam.org “ also read JEEVAN RASAYAN a book from —“http://hariombooks.goog… “ tihs will help remove all weakness from you,believe me millions have obtained benefits from it ,literally.

note: women durimg their periods are not to chant OM but they can chant HARI

this I say to you on basis of teachings of ‘param pujya ASARAMJI bapu’

http://www.hariomgroup.net http://www.hariomgroup.org http://hariomgroup.googlepages.com/rishi_prasad

Answer #11

I too am depressed. its a chemical imbalance in your brain. hope this helps. :)

Answer #12

Because you do not do any sport. I do not know where you live and how many money you have, but usullay every enviromnent and financial situation give some chnce for some good sports. Against depression horse riding may be the best, but kayaking, or walking in the hills with friends is also very good. If you are poor try a ball game.

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