Why can your friends be backstabbers?

I have this friend who is really annoying me, and I “confide” my thoughts of her in some of my other firends - basically b*h about her… but then she confronts me saying im a backstabber and st - which I accept is true, but I got quite angry because it means I have like no friends I can totally trust in, and I know slagging her off is bad and all, but I feel like I have noone I can totally trust. I mean, everyone has that one person they can totally trust with anything, right? what do I do about all this?

Answer #1

Like all things, it shall pass. Perhaps you can show to your friends that you aren’t that type of person. People (no matter who they are) will always have an opinion and a opinion some one has about you isn’t who you are all about. Just let it go and in time it will be history. Secondly, secrets will always find there way around. If it’s not you who initiated the first comment, then some one saw something some where and it will develop into gossip. So don’t put yourself in a situation that can be exaggerated into rumor or gossip. Third, look at who your friends are. If you or your friends thrive on rumors or gossip, then what goes around comes around. So if it is based on fact you have no one to blame except yourself, but given enough time. That to will come into pass history…

Answer #2

Yes, I have a friend that I trust 100% and he trust me. I also have friends that will tell someone that tells someone and so on which I can’t stand.

Since you don’t have that friend you can tell everything to I would keep stuff to myself that I didn’t want to get out. Once you find that person you can “totally trust” then you can tell them stuff.

Good Luck

Answer #3

I thought I always had someone I can trust to. but she completely lost it. so when I had my first REAL boyfriend I trusted and confided in him 100%. eventually we couldn’t see each other anymore because of my mom. so now I have no one. my advice is that its best not to trust anyone because eventually something happens that f’s it up. good luck with everything.

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