Why can't I talk to him?

Ok, so there’s this guy that I have had my eye on literally since the first day of school. None of my friends think he’s cute at all, but I think he’s adorable. He has black hair, gorgeous blue eyes, he’s not very tall, but he’s taller than me, so, I’m good with that. Anyway, last semester he wasnt in any of my classes, but this semester, he’s in my art class. Last semester,one of my friends knew I liked him and wrote him a note saying how, basically, obsessed I am with him and told him my first name. She didnt point me out to him, but im afraid now, that if I ever do get the courage to talk to him and tell him my name, that he’ll think im some kind of stalker. (which I kind of am, like, seriously, no joke, kinda obsessed) I mean, like 100 people in the school have my name, but what are the chances that two people with my name will like him that way? But I really really like this guy, (and I’ve noticed he keeps looking at me, but that might just be my mind playing tricks on me because I like him) and I really wanna talk to him just to hear the boy’s voice(he never talks or says anything at all I class),but I’m terrified that he’ll figure out that im the girl from the note, or he’ll have a girlfriend, he’ll just be a jerk(which he doesnt seem to be, but I havent tlked to him, so I don’t know), or (the most likely one) he’ll think im too big for him. I mean, im on a diet right now, but I just started like, January 1st, so I havent had a lot of progress. But once, last year I went on a diet and lost 20 pounds, and I know I can do it again. But all that being said,I’m still pretty big, and it scares me that that’ll bother him or something.And im thinking that I could wait until after I’ve lost some weight to tlk to him, but what if (if he doesnt have a girlfriend already) he has a girlfriend by then?? I’m just so confused . .any advice? I really like this guy, so please be specific. If I decide to finally tlk to him, Im gonna need word by word advice on what to say, or trust me, I WILL be stammering trying to talk to this boy.

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Answer #1

what you need to do girly is just have confidence. don’t listen to your friends or what ever. wait till your ready to talk to him but don’t do it till its too late. Just approach him at a good moment and say something. I think you could do it. weightt pshh…doesn’t matter..the dude will like you for who you are. im not sayin lose weight or don’t lose weight you just do you lol :) maybe you and your friend can go to his table at lunch and tlk 2 him. your friend can help you make conversation. if he doesn’t notice you make him notice. guys like confidence more than what you look like. I think you could do it. if you become like art partners I dunno.. introduce yourself he’ll say his name compliment him on his name if you want ( optional ) keep smiling but I mean act serious too. get work done to make it seem like your very smart but don’t ignore him. say something that you notice he does in class like I hardly notice you…your quiet. he’ll probably say nahh not really and there you go a laugh..or chuckle. I don’t know tell him that you think he’s cutee and you would like to get to know him. if you don’t want to tell him he’s cute then say I’ll c you around…you seem like a cool person we should really get to know eachother and smile then leave. have confidence at the most. sorry if you thought that conversation was “wack” but put yourself out there in terms of personality don’t do anything with your looks. juust take your time. he may not b the type of guy you think he is. maybe he’s friendly. I hope I helped :)

Answer #2

Hi! Well, I was in the same situation last year, but he was in a different class and we met sometimes during Gym at school. Well, one day I was practically thrown by my friend on him while we were swimming, I said ‘sorry’ and we began to talk about the teacher, the schoolmates, the homework… so I think you should go to this boy and simply talk, may you can ask about the lesson? Or, if you want, you simply can fall near him, if he’s as cute as you think, he’ll help you and you can even start to know him ^^ Or, if you have a very reliable friend, ask her to go and start talking, so she will present you to the boy, that’s what I did for my friend today and it ended good, theyll date next saturday -and she’s really shy =D Then, don’t worry about the whole thing of the note, because there are million of people having the same name (my two best friends for ex) and he won’t notice!! Especially if he have not seen you, or he doesn’t know your friend who send the note very well =D And never worry about your weight, if your on a diet and you do some sport, itll get better and better in a few weeks -you did also some time ago, didn’t you? ^^- so he won’t bother! And if he does, he’s simply an idiot and he does not deserve to know you!! Good luck, hope I was useful and clear, ask me if I wasn’t!!! =D

Answer #3

Ya, im really shy and I almost talked to him like 3 or 4 times, and I just cant. But, I’ve promised myself that I will within the next month.

Answer #4

Ok.There is more to love than saying it in reality, if you really love him you don’t think you just go and if he will love you back definitly he will know that you are fat and if he will back even if you are as slim as Cassie he will not love reither he will just use you and dump you. You see don’t worry about what to tell him just try and develop what we call charisma and face him, he may not even be that hard as you thought he is or he maybe even feeling same thing and don’t know how to approach you. Just take you time and go.

Answer #5

what about if your really shy and you know you just cant do it

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