Why can he talk to them, but not me?

I work with a guy who I think is absolutely adorable. Since working with him, I’ve developed a sort of crush on him and really want to be able to flirt and talk freely with him, but he rarely talks to me. At first, I thought maybe he was just shy. But my coworkers have all told me that he’s extremely outgoing with them. It has been suggested that he could be intimidated by me and I’ve definitely not ruled it out as a possibility, seeing as I myself am extremely intimidated by him. It’s just that every time I see him, I clam up or feel like my face is on fire. I guess it’s so hard to talk to him because I don’t want to look like an idiot in front of him? I don’t know. I am really bummed by this because I really am a friendly, approachable, and down to earth person. I just don’t understand why he can talk to my coworkers so easily and not to me. Advice?

Answer #1

I bet he thinks that you don’t like him, or are annoyed by him possibly. Start with small stuff. Smile at him, say hi, other stuff too. When you go into this you have to literally think SHUT UP BRAIN I AM GOING TO DO THIS!!! and just say hi and be okay with it. You just have to calm your nerves before you go talk to him, try and get rid of that tense feeling. And sometimes there’s nothing we can do about it. The fact is you are more likely to do stupid things around him if you are worried and paranoid. It’s better to not care. He would think you are a cool person if you, say, trip, and then laugh it off. or just don’t react because it’s not a big deal. Life is not worth worrying over. sometimes you just have to go do it.

Answer #2

im on the same boat and I think I can be that “he” in your story and yea I think this girl is annoyed by me or I just don’t want her to hate me and I don’ think she lkes me thas why I don’t talk a lot :[

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