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Why are so many people saying I'm judging this girl, but I'm not???

I asked if I should stay friends with this girl who doesn’t believe in God. I said I’ve tried to get her to come to church with me. I just want to make it clear that I’m NOT judging her. I respect her beliefs. She’s a great person, and a great friend and I love her. But I no I’m going to heaven. I want her to go there too. Heaven wouldn’t be much of a heaven at all without her. Just makin that clear. I’m sorry if I affended anyone. Really, I am. I didn’t mean to sound, quote, “all preachy”. Thanx for your answers! :)

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Answer #1

hey rew636, don’t let the haters get you down. im also 13 and it gets on my nerves when grown people say that we’re being immature or ignorant when we ask questions… we’re barely tenagers for crying out loud! im a Christian and here’s what I know: okay, so I have a friend who is agnostic (meaning that she believes in a higher power) but im not sure if she’s a theist (believes that there is a god but nothing too specific like religion) anyway I sent her a christian video from utube and that’s how I found out about her beliefs… anyways we kinda had a debate about Christainity and she was asking me questions about it and I asked her why she would’nt believe in GOD… long story short: we talked about the issue for about 2wks on e-mail and I made sure to let her know that I was praying for her regardless of her beliefs and that GOD loved her. that was about a month ago. she still isnt Christian but im still praying for her and she’s still mi best friend. my advice: keep your friend. make sure that she knows that you still want to be her friend and that GOD loves her. most of all, pray for her and if you have a youth pastor or someone at your church you feel comfortable talking to, ask them to pray too. oh! and explain to your friend why you see the need to tell her about Christ: that you’re afraid for her soul and would hate to have her go to hell but that its her decision either way

Answer #2

I myself changed my religion no specific religion and it kind of affected my catholic friend abit so I kind of understand. but I do believe in God. Dont you think even if we dont believe sumthn were told to beleive God would understand? Its just the way she thinks and you have to undersatnd that God loves us all the same even if we dont beleive in him. I’m sure you can see from her point of view that maybe she just finds it hard to believe in sumthn that she was told by people with no proof cause maybe shes a fact kind of girl. And there are tons of religions that praise differnt kinds of things but beleive there going to heaven too. Everyone belives in differnt things and it dosnt mean anyones right or wrong cause nowon knows the truth for sure anyways. stay with your faith and let her stay with her. if there really is a heaven that trust me she would deffiently go just cause you luv her as your friend and she has an impact on you. If God exists than he would not punish sumone and send them for hell cause sumone didnt believe sumthn they were told. ok? best of luck xoxox

Answer #3

Get off her back…let her think HER thoughts…you think yours. Live and let live…she’s young, and has years to come to her own conclusions…pushing religion on someone is the fastest way I can think of to end a friendship…If you love her, then love her for herself and keep religion out of it.

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Answer #4

I dont think youre judging her, but you said you respect her beleifs. It would be nice if she beleived in God, and went to church, but maybe thats how she was brought up and you have to let go. You shouldnt think of whos going to heaven and hell, just let it be, and have fun live your life great while it lasts. You should go to her and say “Im not trying to change your beleifs, I just wanted to tell you, if you ever would like talk to me about God, and my beleifs for him, you can.” Tell her your sorry if she thought you were judging, tell her that shes your best freidn and you only want to be with her for ever, and ever.

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