Why are my friends so eager to say "I love you"?

Ok well most of my friends have boyfriends and as some of you know, I have a bofriend myself. Well one of my friends said I love you to her boyfriend after less than a month going out and another one of my friends said I love you to her boyfriends 2 weeks after going out. Yes I have said I love you to a guy but I was stupid and presured into saying it. Well we are all about 13 or 14 and I reaaallyyy dont believe in love at our ages. We are young and stupid. Right now we love fake nails and facials, we shouldnt be saying I love you if we dont even know what it means. So why are they saying it? They cant possibly actually love these guys.. Can they? Please answer

Answer #1

Oh boy, do I agree with this question or what? Sometimes when people start dating, they have the tendency to only ever think about relationships. I know that I have certain friends who have never even considered the option of being independent. And completely rely on being with someone else, because being single just doesn’t make them happy. But I realize that some people are just dependent on people. ‘I love you’ is a way to slightly explain how the feel. Because, hey, it’s not like I’d go up to my boyfriend and I say ‘I like you’ everytime I hang up the phone. I guess it just doesn’t work that way. Plus there’s a way to differentiate between actual ‘I love you’s. I say ily to my friends all the time, because I love them as a friend, am I in love with them? Nah. But its just a way of expressing how I feel about them, to a certain extent. The older you get, the more meaning love will hold. Maybe they just haven’t realized what power the words hold, so they toss it around like beanbags.

Answer #2

They might want to feel as it if required to say love you right away? But dont feel pressured to do or say anything you dont want to

Answer #3

Different people take the phrase with different amounts of seriousness. What they define love as may not be “love” for someone else. infatuation and love are easily confused.

Answer #4

I feel the same way I’m 15 and I notice that people around me do that all the time and honestly it annoys me becuse I don’t think they truly mean it. I’ve only said I love you to one and guy and we were together for a year but sometimes I regret saying that to him. but anyway I think people just say it just to hide something or just to get it out of the way but personally I don’t think it should be said unless you truly mean it.

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