Why am I so sad?

I know its normal for teenagers to be sad around this age because im in puberty.. but I feel INSANELY sad. I cant take it. the only time im not sad is when im with friends, otherwise I feel like life is pointless and theres really no point in even living. im not going to kill myself or anything, but I just dont know what else to do. the sadness I feel has gotten to the point where its almost untolerable.

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Answer #1

I hate to be contrary, but just because you’re not sad when you’re with your friends, does not mean you’re not depressed… Depression is not always a 24/7 well of despair… It comes in many forms, and it is possible that the reason you’re not depressed when you’re around your friends is because they serve as a distraction, and they make you feel good…

No one choses to be sad all the time, its not an angsty teenage thing, snap out of it doesnt really work if you are depressed…

Well I guess that’s what you need to find out… I would go online, take a screener for depression, and if you’ve got enough of the symptoms, then go see a doctor, psychologist, psychiatrist… Even if you dont meet the criteria (and sometimes you may be depressed and still not meet it) you may want to talk to someone about it… and dont listen to people who think you’re just whining… you shouldnt be miserable all the time, even if you are an angsty teenager.. :)

Answer #2

Dear xoxelizabeth92, The fact that you are not sad when with friends says that you are probably not depressed. But you do not get the same satisfaction from the rest of your life as you do when you are with friends having fun. Congratulations…you are discovering the real world. It is all about attitude. Do you think any of us wouldn’t rather be out spending time having fun with friends than having to go to school, work, doing chores, homework? So self-discipline comes into play. I know I don’t like to go to school, I’d rather be out with friends…this thought is replaced with I know I’d rather be out with friends but I need an education to be successful in life and be able to keep my friends. I know I don’t want to do my chores but if I do them I am able to go out with my friends and not be grounded. It all in the attitude and reasoning. We smile through our daily duties so we can laugh with our friends. Sue…good luck

Answer #3

Want to try something DIFFERENT ??? just do the following RIGHT NOW ;

1–chant ‘hari om’(hari as in HURRY & om as in HOME without the ‘H’) do this repetedly & a point will come where you will feel like you just want to close your eyes ( in that case case do it).At this point increase the number of O in om like HARI OOOM & then HARI OOOM & so on.when you chant this VEDIC MANTRA then remain silent (no thinking!,fidgeting,moving,etc) for an amount of time taken to chant this one mantra.this looks very very simple but its effects are very very very large (even ALBERT EINSTEIN would not had imagine it !!!). this is called ‘CHUP SADHANA’ & I learned it from ‘param pujya ASARAMJI bapu’.—>”www.asharam.org “ also read JEEVAN RASAYAN a book from —“http://hariombooks.goog… “ tihs will help remove all weakness from you,believe me millions have obtained benefits from it ,literally.

note: women durimg their periods are not to chant OM but they can chant HARI

this I say to you on basis of teachings of ‘param pujya ASARAMJI bapu’

http://www.ashram.org
http://www.hariomgroup.net http://www.hariomgroup.org http://hariomgroup.googlepages.com/rishi_prasad

Answer #4

ok thanks for the answers, fau is actually me [xoxelizabeth92] I just marked my question as anonomous so my friends wouldnt see I posted it. if any one has any other advice, then fun mail me to this account xoxelizabeth92 because I’ve still been pretty sad but I do appreciate the advice. thanks everyone <3

Answer #5

Yes, thanks, I’ve actually researched depression, considering it is what I hope to do research in during grad school…

Dysthymia falls within the spectrum of disorders categorized under clinical depression… and actually, dysthymia is chronic (the DSM criteria is that it has lasted for two years) as compared to major/unipolar depression (criteria states that it has to last two weeks) which doesnt last as long…

either way, it is not something you can snap out of, and it is not something you can just get over or cover up… life can get better (well im still waiting, but hey…) and I honestly believe there’s probably someone that can help… but dont simply accept that you feel bad and thats the end of it… life isnt supposed to suck, otherwise a lot more people would kill themselves…

try to talk to someone, what do you have to lose?

Answer #6

I hate it when adults say that sue. What it’s basically saying to me is life sucks, get used to it, stop whinging and move on. It makes me feel like there’s almost no point to living escpecially after college. I don’t mean to be harsh, but I just don’t think it helps.

Fau I know you feel and I go through it all the time, except sometimes I get really sad around my friends too. So for me there really is no sanctuary. I’ve learned to control these emotions and ignore them as best as possible. Also if people are bugging you about being sad a lot just learn to cover it up, which is what I did.

Answer #7

angel14215, chances are they would not classify her as depressed but suffering from dysthymia. Many suffer and many over come. It is like depression but not chronic. It still should be treated by a therapist and even with medication but the process can be different then treating chronic depression. But when one does show happiness and satisfaction in one area of their lives and not another..treatment can be different. Sue…good luck