When You Love Something?

They saw when you love something, to let it go - and if it comes back, it was meant to be. I’ve been in the same relationship for two years now, never taken any breaks or anything… but lately I don’t know. I’m really doubting myself here, I love him - but I don’t think I’m the best person for him. None of his friends like me - they downright hate me and say I’m a b*tch. I’ve honestly tried to be friends with them for so long, but now I’m just like, screw it. He’ll let them walk all over me, and won’t say anything - or at best he’ll tell everyone to cool off. I understand they are his friends, but maybe he thinks they have a point…? I wish he’d stand up for me, it really hurts to know that he doesn’t, he tries ot mediate, he hates conflict - but still. We’re serious, at least I am here, and if my friends every said anything about him that was remotely close to what his say about me, I’d jump beat her. I guess what I’m saying is, should we take a break? There was someone who had feelings for him, all his friends like her… and he used to as well [before me], though he never has cheated on me in any way, shape or form. He turned her down before when we were dating… I just think he’d be better off with her maybe. I know I’m not ugly, it’s not anything like that - but this girl is just so sweet to him, to anyone really… and I’m just the bitch as far as anyone else is concerned. I’ve talked to him about his friends - he just ignores it, like he really doesn’t understand where I’m coming from. I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place here - any ideas?

Answer #1

I really don’t know. I mean I can be moody, I’m not going to lie there. But they’re going to go off on me over nothing, whether I’m having a smooth day or not, and if I even try to defend myself, I’m the btch. I’ve tried talking to one of the main two, since he’s the one we live by - and he said if I wasn’t a btch he wouldn’t hesitate to be my friend. I’ve tried my hardest to be the nicest person, and I’m still called such things. It’s building up, I resent them. I love my SO - and it would destroy me to leave him because of his friends, I just feel trapped since they are constantly around him. They are his best friends, and he hates that they treat me that way and that I feel like sh*t, but he wants to resolve it without a fight, he doesn’t want to lose his friends. We’re currently engaged [no date yet], I’m positive that he’s the one for me, of all the relationships I’ve been in, this one is so different. When it’s just us, everything is right in the world, but we get less and less time now, I’m sixty miles from him due to problems at home [we’re normally a short drive away], and now he works 7/12’s at a crappy job two hours from his house, so he’s up sixteen hours a day, and we hardly get to talk anymore - it sucks. The contract wears out in a month, and he’s supposed to start school soon after, but it’s insanity - like a rollercoaster.

Answer #2

Well, what do you do that makes his friends think you’re a b*tch? Don’t take a break or break up with someone because you don’t think you’re good enough for that person or because you think they can do better.. Break up with him if you don’t want to be with him anymore. You don’t want to throw away two years because of what his friends think about you.. You aren’t dating his friends, you’re dating him, and his opinion is all that should matter to you. Talk to him more about it. You can even talk to his friends if you want..

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