When do I know masturbating is taking over my life?

well … I mean im 13 too . and once I found out about it and new how to in all , like I did it a lot maybe not 7 or 8 times a day but sometimes 2 a day and I thought it was out of hand so I just stopped thinking about it and stopped I think its okay every now and then but not all the time . just do your best to do other things . good luckk .

It is normal to masturbate. 7 or 8 is a bit much but if you are only spending a few minutes per session and not harming yourself, it’s understandable.

More to the point, is it affecting other parts of your life. Do you miss or skip school, or activities with friends in order to do this? If other parts of your life are normal, don’t worry about it. As you get older and have more to do the sessions will slow down, but not stop. If it IS badly affecting other parts of your life, you really should think about talking to maybe your school nurse or a trusted female teacher. (Actually your Mom would be the best choice if you can.)

If you want to slow down now, I would suggest getting involved with after school activities, sports, scouts, or what ever. (Many times - especially for guys - this activity is done out of boredom … your bored, masturbation feels good, so why not?)

Good Luck!!

8-9 times a day, finding a way to be alone when otherwise out with people, and having it interfere with your everyday life is not normal..not even for a young teen just “learning” and experimenting with their body. It’s one thing if it doesn’t interfere with your every day life, but since it does, that is an issue. It could be the beginning of a sex addiction, or a way for you to subconsciously avoid reality, etc. You said you don’t want to see a doctor, but I would try a therapist…doesn’t hurt to rule the above things out, does it?

Good luck.

im 13 too(: yeah but I only do it 2 times a day(:.the reason? I do it because when I cant see my boyfriend.,because my parents!,.but I do it because it feels good so im pleasing myself even when my boyfriend anit there.,I would count down the number of times you do it though.,& TOO me it seems like your alone most often to be doing that kind of stuff!(: but hey its your life.,but if you go around telling guys you do that SOme May take it Gross & Some May TAKE it Very Sexy.,& you so dont need to see a doctor,.your young and we all expericence things,.and you’ll stop,.like not stop completly but just stop the number of times you do it!,(if you go to the doctor though there going to say you have problems because girls our age shudnt be doing such a thing!)lol..,well good luck,

I’m 14 and I found out about masturbating when I was about your age and I used to do it like 5 times a day it made me feel amazing, the most reason I did it was because I was afraid of having a boyfriend all I thought he wanted was sex and I wanted to have sex with him but once I got a boyfriend masturbating wasnt such a big deal all I could think of was him, all your need to do is find someone or something in your life that knocks your socks off it helps a lot and some other causes to masturbating is life issues and masturbating just makes your feel good so imbrace everthing in your life.

okay . you have absolutely nothing wrong, you are simply experimenting . and if it feels good why should you not be able to do it . you do not need to see a doctor but they would just try to calm you down from it anyway. if it gets to the point where you get scared of it but you still get horny and want to do it then think of something like puppies or a familly member it will stop that wierd feeling :)

Luck ;) x