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Its a long story but I hope everything comes out. So I recently met the man of my dreams, I mean he really means the world to me. We've only been together for 8months but those 8months seem like a lifetime but anyway, we both work for the government so we both move around a lot and now he's far away.
A social site After being together for so many months a noticed that he wasn't a friend on my a social site so I added him... When he accepted I viewed his page only to notice that his r/ship status said single. I was very upset I mean who wouldn't be. So instead of confronting him about it I just simply changed mine from "in a r/ship" to "swinger" anyway one day upon him viewing my profile... This was his reaction " oh so you a s swinger huh" so I replied "u single soo..." then he xplained that he hadn't even noticed that its still said single because he had had his profile for so long that he just stopped making changes to it... Understandable, I thought so he changed it to "in a relationship"
Comments I was really missing him one day so I decided to leave him a profile comment on his a social site page.. Which he didn't accept. When I asked him about it, he kept giving me xcuses till he must've assumed I had forgot because I stopped asking. I really don't know what to think... I comment on his pictures and trust me by my comments you can tell we are involved... That was the point anyway... So why not accept the profile comment?
A social site He recently joined a social site after me asking him to so many times because a social site is kinda dead now, nobody goes on there anymore atleast not really but anyway he joined and at first for his relationship status he put that he was single and then later he went back and didn't put anything at all.. Don't get me wrong... It's pretty obvious why he did it. I mean why not admit you are in a r/ship unless you have some hidden agenda?
Pictures I was talking to him recently and told him that he should put new pics up on his a social site and I agreed so he gave me his password and I put em up he didn't fail to warn me about the female's number in his inbox tho but anyway I thought he would have changed his password immediately after but he didn't I know because I checked, I didn't go true his stuff just logged in to c if it still worked. He changed it today however. I know that he loves me that I definitely do know but I can't help to question his faithfulness and I really don't wanna be the fool in the end because I really care about him and I'd do anything for him. They say you can't have love without trust but thats not true at all because I love my boyfriend with all my heart but I trust him as far as I can throw him. Because at the end of the day, he's still a man, and he's gonna do what a man does.
Pictures
I used have a whole album with pictures filled with only him on my a social site but I took em all down because not once did he ever put a picture of me up, not that he has any but he could do the same thing I did. I also had that same album on my a social site which I also took down because its not fair honestly... I let everybody know that I'm happily taken but he refuses to do the same which is why I believe there is someone else. Because of his covert ways its causing me to think that he is unfaithful, but the problem is I have no way to prove it. Yes his actions are questionable but he's always been 'mysterious' since I've known him. He's the type that doesn't like to share his business.
Going crazy now
I just want to know the truth. I ask him all the time if there is someone else and he denies it not that I xpect him to answer truthfully. I find myself now trying to find ways to hack into a social site and since he changed his password 4facebook that too. I know this is wrong but I think I have good reasons. Its not fair for you to give your all to someone not mention saving urself for them and for them to turn around and spit in your face by cheating on you telling you basically that you weren't enuff. Once again I find myself in a long distance r/ship and I find myself holding on... Don't get me wrong he calls me 2wice/day everyday so I know he cares but what is he hiding. I know long distance r/ships don't work out but with our jobs most of our r/ships will b long distance whether we like it or not so we have to get used to it. Just don't know what to think anymore... Just wanna know what's going on. Don't wanna be the fool in the end again
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OMG... you're in a really tough position, what you need to do is really have a down to earth talk with your boyfriend; maybe make dinner or watch a move; something low-key. If you're still suspiscious, (which, if he is cheating, of course he'll deny it) watch his life a little more. I'm not saying go snooping, just keep a very watchful eye on him. Sorry you're in this situation and good luck!
