whats wrong with me to make him hurt me like this?

Dear Malone, I just read your other question.. There is nothing wrong with YOU!! Some people (like your boyfriend) take a nice person (you) as weakness. They see someone who smiles, who is caring, who is genuinely a good hearted person, and they take it for a weak person. They try and take advantage of you….treat you bad….knowing you will stay around because you are nice and caring “weak”. They may try and make you think any misunderstanding in your relationship is your fault. They keep you around because there is nothing better in their life (and there never will be) What to do????

Number one DO NOT CHANGE! Stay nice, stay good hearted, keep the mentallity of looking out for a boyfriend/husband. Keep that caring pleasant personality. This is a wonderful quality you have. So many times a girl (when in a relationship like yours) can develop a hardness towards people….changing their personality, feeling like a sucker because they are nice, and because they were nice they feel like they can be walked all over in a relationship. So (because of the jerk boyfriend) they develop a hard nose attitude toward guys and future relationships….In reality they are allowing this (jerk) to control and change who they/ you really are, which is nice,caring, goodhearted person,etc… Keep your wonderful personality….embrace it….confident in what you are all about. AND protect it by NEVER allowing anyone (boyfriend, friend, or family) to take advantage of it. You also protect it by keeping yourself in relationships with truly good people. You can have aquantances, but never have meaningful relationships with people who don’t appreciate a quality personality like yours. By doing this it will bring you alot of happiness and bring you wonderful relationships in the future. You have heard the statement what you give is what you receive….this is true….you however have the quality of being nice without expecting anything back….it is your natural way of thinking and acting….you are powerful because of it and I want you to recognize this,AND begin to remove people from your relationship life who do not know how to appreciate you..(it). Familycoach

why would he even begin to treat you this way your verry pretty and i can tell smart. he is treating you like he cant find his own damn age. it seems he is acting like a child when he needs to be a man and talk to you. but to get rid of his ass just block his # ignor him and let him found out its over when your on the arm of a much better ( in all aspects.. expecially the way he treats you) man. and i know you can do this every girl can we are strong independent people. and with out us guys would be… nothing

Be a woman! Stand your ground and be assurtive with him. If you want it to be over because he doesn’t respect you the way you respect him then you do deserve much better and you come off to me as a wise person. You know what you want and you’re not afraid of breaking up with him, that’s very good…(a complete weakness of mine.) Maybe you should try to get ahold of his phone sometime when he doesn’t have it with him and he’s not around or something unless he carries it with him 24/7, which very well may be the case.

Dump his as if he’s treating you bad end it it’s not worth it for a girl to be hurt by their boyfriends