What would you do

no he did not molest her and yes he did apologize along time ago…no she is not treating me like family,she makes everything about herself.she even has my own mother bending to her will.she uses people and uses her kids against everyone,like she has told my mother that if she doesn’t do this or do that she will not see her grandkids.that is wrong and immoral.the only time she treats me like family is when she wants something.I was being a decent person and putting all my hurt feelings aside by inviting her last year and then again this year.

Did he molest her?

If not, then what she is doing is taking someone else’s trauma and making it about her.

She has no reason to boycott your Thanksgiving based on something that had nothing to do with her. If you have forgiven him and moved on with your life, then she should have the decency to accept it and show that she supports you by being there.

Be blunt with her and tell her how this is really affecting you. If she has any morals, she’ll start to see things differently.

ok..it maytake sometime,he did that,then dissapeared till 18..try to just get them to sit down

Story mentions nothing of an apology.

My mother was the same when she was little.. Her father did the same and she also had 11 brothers too and some did it to her aswell.. My mom was super effected by this for many years and hit rock bottem in 92’, I know she was Very lucky to have lived that day, and that day changed her life, she spent YEARS and therapy and wrote her father a letter… It took a lot to do this, But beieve it or not my grandfather is now 78 I think and Me & my mother are the only family out of 14 kids to actually talk to him… I love my grandfather and I know what he did, I know it was wrong & so dose he But I dont think he would be alive today if he didnt have us… last year I was having a hard time and me and my mother were visiting him and I was crying to my mother and As blind as he was he walked over to us both, and hugged us told us he loved us and he said” I never wanna see you hurt, I know I have done wrong, and I could be grouchy but I love you “ and he Cried, Thats was the first time my mother has ever heard him say I love you and shed a tear… I think your father really feels guilty for what he has done and its good to forgive him… I know its a hard thing to do I seen my mom in bed for weeks with depression trying to deal with her childhood. I hope everything works out with your family, and I hope your father has learned for the mistakes he has done.