What would you decide?

Hypothetical question

You are dating someone who you have grown to absolutely adore. This person makes you genuinely happy, and you’ve never been more happy than you are when you are with this person.

Your friends don’t like this person, but have no specific reason not to. They resort to insulting your partner and making demands on you to leave this person.

Who do you choose?

The person who you have waited for your entire life and makes you happy

~or~

Your ‘friends’ who don’t seem to want you to be happy and expect you to cater to their demands?

While on that topic…what makes a ‘true’ friend? One that wants YOU to be happy, or one that wants HIM/HERSELF to be happy?

Answer #1

biased question, look how you asked it

Answer #2

your soul mate

because a true friend wants you to be happy with what ever you do.

Answer #3

Ok, well it sounds like she needs new friends. I’m on the boyfriend’s side now.

Answer #4

I think there’s more to the story than this. Is it possible your cousin isn’t telling you all the details? I mean, assuming these people are good friends of hers and aren’t just jealous self satisfying egomaniacs, they must have a reason to not like this guy. Especially if she is getting the same reaction from more than one friend. Her friends have known her longer and know her better than some guy she just met. Love is blind, but adoring infatuation is ‘blinder’ and they may see something she isn’t. I’m on the ‘friends’ side for now. ;)

Answer #5

Well, I know these ‘friends’ and they are precisely the jealous, bitter kind of people who don’t want my cousin to be happy because they aren’t happy themselves.

There honestly isn’t any more to this than that.

The guy is a fantastic person from what I can see. He has a good job and treats my cousin with respect and compassion…they’re planning to get married soon and my friend is just really hurt that her friends prefer to be petty and jealous instead of accepting that she’s actually happy …and yes, she DOES love him, and he DOES make her happy.

Answer #6

it’s probably not that friends dont want that person happy it’s probably because that person can to better than that. and personally I would choose the best friend they will probably be there longer than the ‘soulmate’.

Answer #7

The soul mate… who cares about the friends… just make new ones =] its rare to find another soulmate.

Answer #8

Agreed with all the above, real friends accept other friend’s choices regardless of whether they agree or not.

I’d choose the soul mate. At least I’ll be happy then.

Answer #9

I would choose my friends. I dont think friends just decided to hate someone girlfriend over night she obviously had to do something. If the friends tried to protect him that doesnt make them true friends?Enlighten me on how they are bad friends for that. Friends will most likey be forever but boyfriends/girlfriends come and go. So the guy is being a jerkface and betraying his friends.

The person who you have waited for your entire life and makes you happy He probably doesnt love her. She probably doesnt make him happy.

Answer #10

I would choose the soulmate, because if they were real friends the would except stick by me weather they like the person or not!

Answer #11

I’d choose the soulmate as well. I could tell my best friend really cared for my feelings: I was dating his best friend for a while, and I was asking if he was okay, and I’ll never forget his response: ‘Whatever makes you happy. I’m not going to pull you from someone you want.’ So sweet. :) A true friend is someone who ignores your little flaws, someone who you can be with without any discomfort.

Answer #12

Who are you talking about Irene? This question is about my cousin who is a female.

Answer #13

…your friend doesn’t sound like a friend at all…

Answer #14

it depends on how well this person knows his/her soulmate, compared to his/her bestfriend. if hes barely known his “soul mate” [like theyve dated fer a monthh] yett hes known his bestfriend fer quite awhile, he should most definitely stick with his bestfriend. his bestfriends just looking out fer him, cause they probably know he/she is just gana get hurt. AGAIN…

and I doubt someone would just randomlyy insult their bestfriend’s boyfriend/girlfriend. there has to be some type of story between it or some misunderstanding..

a true friend would want their friend happy. but sometimes, a true friend is just watching out fer their friend. maybe they know him/her is gana get hurt, because the person they are dating isnt exactly the nicest person everr.

its really hard to choose. especially, since everyones story is differentt. but I would most definitely choose my best friend over my boyfriend(:

Answer #15

No wonder they all say the same thing, lol

imgaine if you said…

The “soul mate who is really horrid to me and as much as I like him I cant get his attention, or the friends who I have known all my life but would never lie to me”

What would you choose then??

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