what do I say to get my boyfriend to have sex with me?

lol nah I dont really want to ask him to have it lol and yeh I think he will problibly be nervous but he has done more thing with a girl then what I have with a boy so that makes it kinda weird because I dont want to do anything wrong but I think it will work out x x

haha I probs will bite him to hard but he will get over it lol x thanks for the talk you have been a greatt help :)

thats exactly how I was, but you have to actually do things since that will be the only way of knowing what they will think, unless you ask him to have sex,..which I dont think you wanna do. yeah the first time you “make the move” is nerve racking but once you get past that part it gets easier and better. I was at that same point with my boyfriend. even thou I wasnt a virgin.yet he was a virgin and once we talked about it I found out he was nervous like hell. but he didnt show it.

if your open to the fact that condoms are not 100% effective then that’s one step..the next step is time. just as long as your not intentionally PLANNING on getting pregnant at this age, then thats wise. I know where you coming from..my boyfriend and I are 100% open to the possibility of me getting pregnant, but we know its to early. so still use condoms everytime. and dont fall for the pull out theory (where a guy pulls out before he cums if you dont use a condom) I know a handful of girls who got pregnant with that way.

usually a guy will do little things to let you know he is ready, like sliding your shirt up or kissing lower and lower, but if he stays on your lips and neck and keeps his hand outside your clothes, then sex isn’t what he is aiming for.

you are WAY TO DAMN YOUNG to even consider getting pregnant, why the hell would you wanna get pregnant at 14. you will barely be able to support it, your gunna get crap from EVERYONE, and I bet you you 2 will break up. all my friends that have gotten pregnant before 20 have broken up and left the girl heartbroken with a baby they cant support. most teens that get pregnant and have a baby drop out of school and cant make themselves worth anything when they are older…

dont get pregnant, if you wanna have sex, use a condom. DONT GET PREGNANT AT 14.

haha lol but I am a really quiet girl like and I dont like touching people or doin stuff like that because I am unsure if they want me to do it if you get what I mean lol I really want to do it like but I dont know what they will think x x

Thanks your a great help :) but like we both know that it probs will lead to pregnancy… and like yesturday he sorta fingered me for the first time is that a sign of him wanting to have sex or… ? xx

yeah try unbuttoning his pants, and see what he does. first time sex is like..his does this, then you do this, thus he will do this, which will lead you to do this, until hes actually inside you then your both giving and recieving haha. thats how I see it.

yes thanks it made sense.. but we are both really ready for it and I know what the consequences are and everything but we both really love each other aswell… but if I have sex with him and use a condom it might lead to pregnancy I just dont know what to do x x

Dont get pregnant at 14! lots of girls feel that way, but they say that without knowing the costs and consequences of having a child. at this age your given opportunities to go further in life, and having a baby is not recommended. im only 17 and I know what you mean, my boyfriend would love a child but I wouldnt want hardship in giving my child a better life then I had.

as in the having sex part,…make sure your doing it because you sincerely love him, not because your being made fun of because you guys are virgins. in lots of cases sex ruins the emotional part of a relationship, but only a handful have said it made them closer. I wasn’t a virgin when I met my current boyfriend but we still waited a year and a half. but you’ll feel when the time is right, I know that sounds cheesy, but it’ll be something you wont regret if you wait. let me know if it makes sense..