What should I do with my life?

This is going to be a long question but just to give you background information: my mom got in a car accident when I was very young, and broke her neck and spine, and is now quadriplegic (paralyzed of both legs and hands) which had a huge affect on me when I was younger. not only that, but she also has been in another car accident (a year and a half ago) which caused her to be in a hospital for a year because of serious damage to her spine. my grandad also died of lung cancer last january, my other grandfather had a stroke 2 years ago and is still in the hospital because he is also paralyzed, and my dad has been diagnosed for cancer in october, a week before I got burned out of my residence at school. (brandon hall at mcmaster university, google it, im not even kidding its so ridiculous) im so depressed that I cant even function anymore. I cant even physically speak about whats happened, I’ve resulted to typing it on a keyboard. My parents payed so much for me to go to school, and because of the fire my marks dropped, I might even be failing, and I cant even get a refund for those courses, I’ve had meetings with my acedemic advisors. So many horrible things have happened to me and I just feel like any of my friends that I talk to about these things dont even know how to begin to make me feel better, just because they cant even begin to relate to anything thats happened to me. im not trying to sound dramatic, but these are events that have happened to me that I have to live with every day for my life. I know that my family wants me to do the best for myself, but I dont even understand what is best for myself anymore. Can anyone out there help me get back on track with my life and give me any advice from their own experiences?

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Answer #1

You need to develop a positive attitude about the things that have happened in your life. Although many things may cause us to develop negative thoughts, if we look hard enough we can find and develop positive attitudes and outcomes.

I choose

I chose to be born, – to live or die, Even the sex, that would be I; I chose the race, from which to appear, Also my wealth, my health and my fear.

I chose my trials and stumbling blocks, And the legs I would use, in all of those walks; I chose my sadness, my joy and my love, I chose to serve and not be above.

I chose this life – with all of its dues, And with each dawn, again I choose; The experiences for me that wait ahead, To be alive, or be claimed dead.

And of the future lives I’ve yet, It is my choice that I begat; All the things, however pleasin’, That shall befall me in those seasons.

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Answer #2

Well, I cant speak for anyone but myself, And I’ll only say what I truly believe. Im not telling you to believe it, but it might make sense to you. You see I believe in a religion, I believe theres a one and only God; the higher power, the divine. Greater than ourselves. I believe in the after life.(Hell or Heaven after Judgement) And that this life, initially is a test, like a big long exam, full of temptations, problems, difficulties, sorrows, loss, etc. I like to think of the obstacles that stand in our paths, to challenge us, test us on how we’ll react, like the questions on an exam, each question has a couple marks/points on it, at the end of the exam, they add up for your final grade, similar to the good deeds you aquire throughout your life. you pass or fail.

 So perhaps you could try observing these hardships, from different perspectives.

Yes ofcourse being negative about hardships is always easiest in the short term, But doesnt do much good in long term; being angry, depressed, the feeling of” Why?Why did this happen to me?” How about taking that question to a whole new level. Yes Indeed. Why are we faced with hardships? For the heck of it? There must be a reason. And its likely you’ve both lost and gained a lot. Youve stated what you lost, which really is devestating.But these hardships will probably leave you a stronger, more understanding, independent individual. Dont let these difficulties get the better of you.You could step up, and be strong,Dont quit school. Quitting wont leave you with many choices in the future.Maybe take some time off to recooperate from all thats happened to you. You could see a therapist and/or psychologist for the depression.That might help. But I know how hard it is to try to function while depressed. Really words cant describe! I really dont know how to put the feeling into words.But yah.Been there. Spiritual stuff helps with concentating, and focusing.Im not sure if your into that stuff tho. Meditation, reading holy scripts,praying,exercising,yoga,martial arts etc. those are good for releasing negative energy. talking to people is good. Talk to your family, loved ones etc, people you KNOW you can count on. Expressing your feelings can leave you feeling a lot better. Just think positive, intead of letting the hardships cloud your mind up, just say hey you know what im going to pick up the pieces from here, and carry on.Try to get things better.

So yeah, find what the meaning of life is for you. pursue your personal content. thats all I can say. I hope I atleast made the leastbit of sense. Im tired, and dont remember half of whhat I’ve written, and whatt the question originaly was. but yes. Rebuild yourself, Find that inner strength.

Answer #3

oh and my aunt was driving the car when my mom had her accident the second time, but the car rolled and more damage happened to the passenger side where my mother was sitting, which is how damage happened to her spine

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