What should I do w/ my girlfriend?

okay so me and my girlfriend have been dating for over a year and a half. shes 14 and im 15. I love her a lot I dont know to do w/ out her but shes been very controlling lately like won let me wlk home from the mall or let me stay out if its dark or hang out w/ my friends that are girls. we broke up last month and I noticed I did a lot more w/ my friends whn we were broken up and seemed to have a better time with them. but we got back together.

When we got back together I started feeling I shud just stay home so we don’t fight about who im w/ and wht im doing so I starteed feeling all ugh again and barely saw my friends.

this week is our spring break and shes on a cruise and so far it feels like im in a better mood whn shes not in my life. Shud I confront her about how I feel about her trying to control me, break up w/ her, or just give alil time to see how things are whhen she gets back from the cruise?

Answer #1

Don’t be mean about it or joke because then she won’t take you seriously. Just tell her you need to talk and tell her that shes been a bit too controlling lately and that if she has all these rules you can’t continue unless she can compromise with you about splitting time with friends and her. All girls don’t want their boyfriend’s out with other girls without them because of temptation so really she just doesn’t want any other girls catchin your eye because she doesn’t want to lose you…I know how she feels, but keeping you away from friends (guys and girls) makes you want to hang with them more and you prob. were friends with them before you started dating her, so make sure she understands that they are not more important than her, but you still want to hang with them sometimes because they have been your friends for a long time. Then see what she says and give her some time to change it and see what happens from there.

Answer #2

I think im just gna break up w/ her because quite a few people have told me that shes cheating on me w/ her softball coaches son and shes cheated on me before so I believe it so im just dun w/ her

Answer #3

just joke around with her and be like dude your soo controlling xD youd die if I was so controlling towards you xD LOL! I like you a whooole bunches :) but babe.. cool it down pleease :)

Answer #4

Just be like, “I’m sorry, but you need to stop being so controlling. When you were gone, I felt a lot better and a lot more freedom, because you wern’t all up in my ear telling to do this and that, and telling me what to do and what not to do. If you keep this up, then I’l probably just end up breaking up with you.” That should get the message through to her. Good luck!!

Love and Rockets, Sierra

Answer #5

thanks. does any one have any other ideas

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