what should I do to help my retarded sister?

im 18 and I have a retarded sister that is 16. I mean she is really retarded im not just saying this because I dont like her. she cant take care of herslef. im always helping her with everything and my parents wont help at all. she wears diapers and cant feed herself. I feel really bad.. what should I do?

Answer #1

you could start by calling her disabled instead of retarded. Maybe its just a word but to some it may indicate you are somewhat insensitive. Wanting to help is one thing and its great of you to want to do so, but essentially it is your parents responsibility. Help out where you can, spend time with her, show her that her big sister cares and loves her.

Answer #2

Well by hating her is not helping.

She needs you help and thats whst family is, they help eachother to get trought things, sometimes it can be frustruated but she is a special condition…

You perents arent soportive? there are so many people who do that, trust me. but the truth is that it dosent give you a reason to bail on her. Your perents not being soportive should push you a step farther so you love her even more.

Answer #3

well honestly thats not your responsibility thats your parents responsibility.. I think you should let your parents know how you feel.. juss dont give up on your sister though.. but dont le her get inthe way of you doin for and taking care of your self either

Answer #4

Well I think you should help her eat by helping her put it in her month like how you feed a baby and just be with her all the time

Answer #5

I understand it must be very difficult to deal with but when all else is said & done no matter what . You need to be brave but also really understand that family is everything & when you have an opportunity to really spend time with your sister while you can. You do it because you love her & empathy & caring is what she needs .

I would definitely have a discussion with your parents maybe they are busy or they can’t handle it. Whatever the case don’t look at it as a chore its a rare chance to bond with your sister & it might open all types of doors for you mentally & emotionally . Hope everything works out =).

Answer #6

Keep helping her, she is family. You are 18 so you can move out of home any time you want. What are you doing in terms of school or work? If you are going to university/college you could move into the campus dorms so you can focus on your study. If you are working, maybe you could rent an apartment and get a room-mate so it isn’t so expensive.

You should have a talk with your parents about what to do about all of this. Maybe you could sort out different things you all help her with. Have a roster. And you should explain to them that you cannot do everything as you need to focus on your life. Good luck.

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