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What should I do? Should I tell?

Hey everyone! I’m Lilith and I have a cousin who is a girl like me, that I am very very close to. Well, she and I have always been able to talk about anything to do with anything, but I’m not sure if I should tell her about this one. Sorry let me explain. I am attracted to girls (I’m bi) but I havent told her. Then last night I had a dream that she and I were making out and then we had sex. She is not blood related to me in any way (I was adopted) but we grew up together and she is my favorite cousin. She is exactly 3 years younger than I am (that makes her 18). I say exactly because we have the same birthday. Anyway, I’ve been having these dreams for a while, but I haven’t told her. Should I tell, or should I keep it to myself? And I don’t want anyone critisizing me saying “Eww that’s gross!” Or “She’s your cousin! Incest!” because I can’t control what I dream. I just want to know if I should tell her about the dreams and that I am bi.

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Answer #1

I think you should tell her she seems dependable and since you knew each other that long it shouldnt change anything besides who knows she might be interested

Answer #2

tell her your bi, but just keep the dreams to your self, if she loves you as family and yall grew up together it should be no problem

Answer #3

Well, she’s never mentioned being interested in girls, she only talks about guys. I don’t want to make her feel awkward around me.

Answer #4

if you’re bi, you’re bi. she’s your favorite cousin like you said so you should tell her that part. maybe see her reaction and let her know how she takes it. then when you think she’s ready… tell her about your dreams. in my eyes, if you two aren’t blood related, it makes things a little bit better. but I wish you the best of luck. :)

Answer #5

Thanks 4of7deadlysins. I will.

Answer #6

really? so Should I still tell her I’m bi?

Answer #7

don’t tell it will cause you more trouble then your dreams ever will.

Answer #8

Tell her you bi first. then later, if she’s cool, tell her about the dreams (laugh and remind her that your not BLOOD related) and see how she reacts. Good luck!

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