What should I do now with my pregnant ex girfriend?

I think you got me wrong. I left her because the issues were then and still now insurmountable, the distance is literally the other side of the world and for reasons I won’t go into she can’t be here and I can’t be there (finance is the main one of these reasons as and yes this really is insurmountable). I left her because I knew trying to fight through these problems would have destroyed the relationship and left us in a very difficult situation. In order to let her move on I never tried to hold onto her or give her ideas that I would want her back, I just quietly worked towards getting to a situation were we could maybe be together again. I didn’t expect her to wait for me, but I didn’t expect her to make such a significant change to her life in such a short time, not because of me but because she is a realistic person and 6 months is not sufficient time to know if you should have a child with someone.

I don’t yet know the circumstances of her life now, but if she has met someone else all your advice is what I have done up until now, support her and be happy for her (if not myself).

The last thing I have been is egotistical and self centered, she does not know any of these feelings and your final point about telling her I still love her. This is my issue. Is it better for her to think she has moved on and made the right decision or risk putting regret in her mind (hopefully she will not regret her choices) that things could have been different in time?

If I have to suffer in order for her to be happy, then ok. But I do not want to hurt her by making a wrong decision, especially now.

I still think it was an awful idea to leave someone you love in hope to work to get back together without their knowing. You let her go and she must have felt very alone therefore she tried to move on. Things should be worked on together as a couple and important things like I’m working towards us having a life together should be discussed. I understand that distance and money can be difficult obstacles to hurdle over but they are by no means impossible and therefore, in my opinion, should not be used as an excuse for separation. As you’ve stated other issues influenced the end of your relationship and in your opinion are still insurmountable. Bottom line is if you think being together is impossible (insurmountable) then let her go without trying to hang on to the rest of a broken dream.