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What should I do in this situation??

I am 17 years old and I just broke up with this amazing girl…its been a month and I miss her real bad…but she’s going out with another guy…he happens to be my enemy(from childhood)…seeing her everyday drives me crazy…I’ve started drinking and also smoking and have completely lost interest in studies…I know I should give up all this and try to get over her by getting rid of anything that reminds me of her…but the problem is that we’re in the same class and I see her daily…even the guy she’s with…we also share the same friends…so I cant get away from her and she cant from me…she’s always on my mind…she sometimes gives me hints of still being friends but am spending a lot of time thinking which is better…speaking to her or not…this year is very crucial and I have to concentrate on my studies…what should I do…

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Answer #1

It’s a tough situation but as you already know, smoking and drinking isn’t going to fix it. Actually, it will just make it worse because instead of being good to yourself and healing, you wallow in self pity and denial. I know it hurts like hell right now but you can’t just accept to throw everything away because of one bad relationship. Also, if you act like a loser (failing school, taking drugs) not only will she not be attracted to you but other potential amazing women might also pass you by. My best advice is put yourself first. It means do everything you’ve got to do to make yourself feel good. If talking to her hurts too much right now then she’ll just have to wait. Spends quality time with your best friends, do stuff you love and don’t let a few hours in a classroom determine your happiness.

Answer #2

I have to say il agree with zorbot and pretty much just stay fourceed on your school work get thoug that and whos knows if thing go right you might get back to gether

hope it helps tasha

Answer #3

that happened to me last school year. I had an ex who happened to be my classmate and I had a boyfriend after him who also happened to be our classmate. well advice for you. don’t let her get to your nerves well if you lost her then its either your just not meant to be and someone better is there or its not yet time for you two to be together. take it from me I’m a girl too. and a girl never lose her feelings for a guy even after years. there is always that something for someone who was once part of her.

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