What should I do about the guy I still care for???

On nov. 2 I started datin this guy I really liked, and we had a good first week even tho I was kinda actin more like a friend than a girlfriend because I wuznt used to havin a boyfriend that went to the same school as me. The last time I tlked to him that week was on late friday nite, we tlked about all kinds of stuff but I remember him sayin how I act different wit him when I’m away 4rm school than when I’m @ school, I asked him how and he wouldnt tell me. so the next day we txt and I asked him was he going to go the b-ball game that nite and he said he was gonna try but they were havin somethin at his grandparents house, l8tr at the game we were txtin but all of a sudden he didnt txt me bac(he always txt me bac) that nite, it was like around 8. sunday he didnt txt me at all and it worried me because that wasnt like him. monday my friend came to class tellin me how she overheard my friend(keri) and him tlkin about a breakup. when I got home he txt me and I told him to call me he did but my phone didnt have good service, so I asked him did he tell keri that he wanted to breakup with me, he said no but he did wanna breakup and that it wuznt workin out. I said okay but wats wrong and he was all like nevamind and dis and that and that he wanna be with me.so we tlked about what was wrong and he said that I dont be actin like I wanna be with him sometimes. we tlked about how we were gonna work it out. l8tr I keri called me and she told me how he had accidently cheated on me wit this girl saturday nite and how she wuznt posed to tell me because he wanted to tell me for his self. I told him about it and he said that it was just a kiss and he it didnt mean anything and stuff. we got into an argument and he told me that the reason he did it was because I had been actin like I wuznt his girl. so I broke up with him and people that were in his homeroom class that were me and his friends, came to me tellin me how I either broke his heart, was wrong for breakin up wit him, how keri lied on him, and how he loved me and stuff. because he had been actin sad(which is not him like at all). I finally cooled down enough to talk to him that thursday, I found out that keri had lied to me and that he did just kiss the girl, not have sex with her like she told me. I soon regretted breakin up with him because he was a great guy, and that the girl kissed him that nite comin 4rm his grandparents and that she had been flirtin wit him all day. so the next week passed and we were friends but we flirted a lot. the next week we were out 4 thanksgiving break. this monday we were txtin and he said he was gonna tell me somethn but nevamind. I told him to tell me and he told me that he still has a lot of feelings for me but he didnt wanna tell me. I told him I felt the same way and we tlked throughout the nite. we did the same tuesday. that wednesday I saw this girl(I know she likes him because she wrote him letter before we started going out but he didnt like her)wit his jacket on, he didnt txt or call me either that day.(it worried me because he told me he’d neva go out wit her and it was the same behavior as that weekend he cheated on me). thrsday I txt him but he neva txt bac until like a couple hours later and I asked him if he still had felt the same way about me as he did monday. he said he did and he asked me why. I told him and he neva txt bac. today we were flirtin and he asked me what it was that I was gone tell him because I neva txt him bac. I told him I did and he said he had got in trouble so his phone got took and he didnt stop asking me what it was until the bell rang when I had to write it on a peice of paper. we flirted all day, but I’m so sick of not bein with him because I really miss him BADLY!!! and I feel that everyday that goes by he mite lose interest in me, I want him to ask me out again but I dont think he would because I’m the one who broke up wit him. PLEASE HELP me with what to do because I’m so lost??? I’m sick of the same old everyday!!!

Answer #1

He’s a player. He’s just not very good at it… you have already said yourself that he will not text back whenever he is out with another woman. He has already cheated on you by kissing another woman. He said it was “nothing” but that could also mean that he got turned down by going any further with that girl. Quit worrying about this bozo and make it clear that if he wants to be with you then act the part instead of going out with other women. Also make it clear that you are not going to be sleeping with him and I’m pretty confident this guy will try and put the blame on you when he says it does not work and then already have a rebound woman.

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