How do I get my addicted Mom help?

My mom is addicted to pain medication. I can’t stand being around her when she is messed up. She acts like a totally different person and I’m pretty sure she’s going to end up killing herself from it. My dad won’t let me call the police on her, and i know they wouldn’t do anything about her (they’ve been here before) and he won’t get get any help. He seems almost mad and has even threatened to kick me out if i do something about it. I there any ways i can like, tell on her anonymously? or Does anyone have any advice for me?

Answer #1

Hmm, seems like a real dilemma you have here. Is there any way you can speak with, maybe an Aunt, Uncle or close friend of your Mothers, to maybe explain the situation, or to have someone listen… I know there are support groups for individuals who have a problem such as your mother does, however… If she is denying it or unwilling to go, then that could cause a problem & it would kind of eliminate the potential for further professional help unless she goes to get this help.

You might, speak with someone you trust, someone who is willing to speak to her about it, explain that you’ve been threatened against being kicked out of you’re home. That you are worried about her and your well being with it, and ask them if they would assist you. Because truthfully, unless she does something to help her self, there is not a whole lot you can actually do, as unfortunate as that is.

Or maybe you could seek out further assistance from a group or Organization for your self, in means to cope with the issues you have to deal with, in regards to the situation.

I’m, not for completely sure how to best help you with this situation sweetie, it seems a little bit complex… But I am definitely willing to be here, to talk with you, or listen if you need someone you can trust to confined in or just talk about it.

Hugs

I hope you are alright, and are not in danger. If you believe you are, or are! Then Call the police. Other wise, if she has an actually prescription, or is taking OTC Pain Killers, then there is little the police can do as it is, unless you are being harmed.

Let me know whats happening & I’ll make sure to gather further possible resources for you as soon as I can okay?

~Benjamin~

Answer #2

I think you’ve got a couple of ptions here…

For one, you can talk to your school counselor. They have resources to help with this kind of stuff at their fingertips. Make an appointment and just sit down and tell the whole story. Child protective services are there for this exact kind of problem, and your counselor will know the best route to take. You have a mother who is an addict and a father threatening to throw you on the street. You need protection and an advocate–that’s what social workers are for. Be prepared for the worst case scenario, being taken from your home temporarily and placed into a teen group home or temporary foster home while the intervention with your mom takes place. I’ve been there–this is not an easy decision. But if things truly are as bad as you say, then you will welcome the safe haven.

Or ask your dad if you can live somewhere else for awhile, tell your mom why you’re going, and hope that will give her the motivation to start taking steps to solve this problem.

Last option is for you to sit down with your dad seriously and tell him that you want to schedule a family intervention with you, him, and any other family members or friends that are included along with an intervention specialist. Obtain all the info that you can from drug counselor offices, your school, online, about what an intervention is and how to set one up. Your dad is enabling your mother because he’s afraid of losing her. If you all, together stand up and bring her attention to her addiction, she can’t blame solely one person responsible and your dad may feel safer.

Good luck, sorry to hear about your dilemma.

Answer #3

HEY … I am going threw something similar with my family. Even though I dont want to put this out there its awful… Watching your parent wrecked and killing themselves is stressful painful and sad… Ive brought it up to my mother and all i got was yelled at and i had to leave cause i felt so helpless..have you ever came face to face with her when she is sober and tell her your feelings??? Your pain??? Im still gonna try..dont give up ..i wont… im here for ya!! you take care…keep me posted!!!

Answer #4

You poor girl. it must be really hard for you. if you really think calling the cops is whats best than you should do that. grab 50 cents and go to a phone booth. they wont know who made the call if you use a phone booth. just give the police your moms name and say where you live don’t tell them your name. if they ask change the subject. i’m sure the police will do something about it. or when your mom has a clear head you could tell her how much you hate it when she’s like that and how much you really want her to stop. she’ll listen to you. best wishes. i really hope it works out for you.

Answer #5

Things are not going to get better until your mom wants to change and a lot of people don’t get there until they hit rock bottom.

If you have a relative you could live with you might consider leaving on your own. If your mom’s drug habit makes her unable to care for you than moving out might be best for everyone involved. You will be in a more nurturing envornonment and your mom will see how her drug use is becoming a wedge in her relationship with you.

Yes you can phone an anonymous tip to the police. Chances are that your folks will put 2 and 2 together and figure you did it. What your mom needs is rehab rather than a drug conviction on her record and jail time.

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