what should I do

So I met someone I really like, and we have been seeing one another for about 2 months now. After talking and trying to move forward, he tells me that he is very scared of relationships and doesn’t think he can do it right now. He grew up without a father, so I think the lack of having parents in a relationship might have created this. I know that he likes me and that he is not seeing anyone else, nor does he want to, and I really want something with him, he’s perfect for me. But he doesn’t know when he will be ‘ready’ for it. Should I wait?

Answer #1

You don’t know that its his father to blame unless he has he told you this. Fear of commitment happens all the time, if he is worth it (he makes you happy in every other way) then stay. But let him know, TELL him that you will not wait forever, in fact you may want to give him an exact date once you’ve thought of it, that you expect some sort of action. Life IS short. You know him 2 months. Its enought for him to realize he likes you. Anything after 2 months more is a waste - you’ll have spent more time waiting for something to happen that has happened.

Answer #2

I agree with autumn. HOWEVER, you need to understand his position and what he is going through. It was his DAD, and since he didnt get to have a father figure in his life, he probably isnt sure YET. You can wait, but its your choice how long you want to. Im not saying you should wait for him for a long time, but if you feel that there is no other person like him that you want to be with, then i think you should wait til atleast he gets his head straight and shit. Just dont wait too long. and most of all, DONT LET HIM DOWN. he might consider you as the bext thing that has ever happened to him. just let him settle a bit.

xox-Cutiee <33

Answer #3

Screw that. Don’t ever wait. I grew up without either parent(I went through some nannies). Commitment is there or its not. I know I’m the kind of person that needs to hear advice from other people, and people like me will stay in a relationship that is going nowhere, even if I know it in my heart. My advice is the dreaded ultimateum. Tell him lifes not worth sitting around for nothing

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