How to get my family together again?

Dear Judy,

Amblessed said it best “this to shall pass.” It sounds trivial when your going through it. You probably feel as the world is crashing over you, with nothing to do but watch it crumble. My parents divorced when I was about five, and my mom chose to move to California leaving my Dad and family all the way in Canada. Somewhere in my childhood I chose to move back up to Canada and live my dad, leaving my brother and mom behind. It was a guilt I fought for years! We are not in control of our parents decisions, but we do have a choice in how we handle it. I like the first suggestion, setting up time where you might all get together for dinner maybe a couple of times a week .. each taking turns making dinner for the others. No matter how far apart your family is you can always keep them in your heart, and keeping communication lines open is pertinent to doing this. I chose after University to move back to California and wake up each morning to write a detailed e-mail to my relatives up north .. we write back and forth every day! You’ll never stop missing them, and this is going to be most difficult, but just keep your love and faith strong, and it will get better! Don’t forget to include activities in your day that keeps you fulfilled, whether it be helping another our, reading, going to the mall .. whatever it is, you need time to keep your spirits up! Prayer whether your a believer or not is always a good way to start as well! It’s amazing what happens when we voice our concerns out loud, whether it be to someone or no one!

Anytime you need to just let out some feelings feel free to write! Good luck! Alyssa

Hey sweetheart, go to your school and tell them whats going on. If you already have a case worker ask them to help you find the help that the goverment offers in your area. There might be a section eight program that your family can get involved with, and foodstamps helps a lot. I know it is a lot of responsibility to go to school and go to work. But maybe the kids that are old enough can help mom or and dad with finances by working part time. That is if they do not have any drug problems. I was in the same boat for a while but my parents were drug addicts. I had to divorce them at 15 so that I could support myself and get an apartment and a job. I still graduated from high school and I am about to finish my bachelors degree. It can happen for you too, you just have to realize your own strength and do it. You say your only 16, but you can do more than you know, and you CAN bring your family together. Stay strong, and write me if you ever need to talk.

-Cynthia

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wow that really sucks mabe you can try to get you guys all together for dinner before your oldest brother gose in the army so you guys can all see each other and have some fun for a day or so its not much but better then nothing

Thats tough I kind of understand where your coming from because I was in a similar situtation the best thing you can do is try to spend time with your family even if it’s for a hour a week it’s worth it.. as for your brother leaving I would try to go sleep over at your dads and hangout before he leaves then when he does leave it will be easier anyways good luck hope everything works out

Some things in life are completly out of your control.

im sorry to hear about your situation. Just deal with it the best you can sweetie.

      Good luck