What should I do

I live in apartment with my son, husband, and father the apartment is always dirty and when I ask my father to wash his dish or to get up for the couch cause I need to clean he gets mad and tell me he is going to get out of the house and live somewhere else and it hurt cause I dont do anything or tell him anything and then he goes and tell my family that he is getting out cause I pressure him to much which its sad cause I only thing I tell him to pick up for himself and thats it. The other part is that my brothers are against me cause of his dumb things he saids about me which I only thing I try to do is make him happy and help him