What's the right age to lose your virginity?

me and my bf have been together for 3 years we are both 15 and very nearly 16 , when is the right time for us both to loose our virginity??

Answer #1

You should wait, because sex does change a relationship. Sometimes good, but more often bad for teens. If things are going good for you now, and obviously has been since you’ve been together for 3 yrs…why ruin it?

Why wait?

First, there is a practical reason for waiting. Premarital sex can detract from a strong relationship and a dynamic sex life. All too often, premarital sex ends up a self-seeking, self-gratifying experience. After intercourse, one partner might be saying “I love you” while the other is thinking “I love it.”

Poor communication, poor sex

Premarital sex can also inhibit communication. “Should I be totally honest and vulnerable and share my heart with this person when I don’t know if they’ll be around tomorrow? Can I entrust all of me to them if I don’t have all of them for me? In short, premarital sex can put people at a disadvantage because it can lessen their chances to experience maximum oneness and pleasure. Premarital sexual experiences leaves you with a part of yourself with that person emotionally. So it makes sense for a person to save themself so they can give themself completely to their spouse.”

There is a second reason for waiting: None of the arguments for premarital sex are strong enough. Of course, it’s always easy to rationalize in the heat of passion and say it’s right. But that is why it is important to decide beforehand–to think with your brain instead of your glands.

Sex is not the key to love. Love is the key to sex. Couples who approach marriage thinking that “We’re in love so it’s OK to have sex” or “We’ll use sex to determine if we’re in love” may be sorely disappointed. They may discover that what they thought was love is only charged-up sex sensations. Waiting until marriage does not guarantee that you’ll be emotionally compatible, but it does help create a less confusing environment in which to find out before you take the step of a marriage commitment.

Just remember one very important fact when considering having sex. He will most likely NOT be your only bf. Our first love is rarely our last! If it’s truly love, and it’s meant to be, it will survive and even grow stronger without sex. If it isn’t, then you will be really glad you waited and found that out, before you got intimately involved on a physical level.

Answer #2

How about until you’re, ah, twenty-one?

Virginity is not something you lose because everyone else does it. Please don’t tell me that sex is okay because you love each other and because “it feels right.”

  1. If the two of you really love each other, in theory then you’ll be together till the end of time. Yet give it another two years (a few months if you decide to do the whole sex thing after all) and I guarantee that you would’ve broken up by then.

Dating as a teenager is supposed to be fun. So keep it fun and take sex out of the equation.

  1. You don’t make important decisions based on feelings. Feelings are unreliable, and what FEELS right is not necessarily right. So use your head. Be realistic and think of the future.

In conclusion: Be cool by not doing what all the cool kids are doing.

Answer #3

Just because you know everything about each other doesn’t mean that you’re ready for sex. Personally I think you’re too young. There is no “right age” so to speak, but the legal age in most states is 18. I would wait until you KNOW that you can handle the consequences if something was to go wrong. Financially and mentally. And relying on your dad for money is not the solution to that.

Answer #4

if you think your ready go for it. but just keep in mind the consequences of having sex. if u were to get pregnet, is he the right dad? keep those certain things in mind before you choose to

Answer #5

If you’ve been together for a lot of time and you two love eachother, I don’t see what the problem is. You should do it when you feel ready, never force it. Just make sure that you use a condom when you do it.

Answer #6

Well obviously there’s the legal age; 16 years old But nobody actually pays any attention to this anyway! The average age to loose your virginty is 17years old but this doesn’t mean that that’s when you have to. The age you should have sex is when both of you feel ready. Don’t try to plan it and just relax and see how everything goes. But only do it when you know your ready because otherwise you will regret it. Hope this helped x

Answer #7

I say wait until you’re at least 17.

Answer #8

i dont think that we should loose our virginity becuase all the cool kids are doin it its because we have been together for 3 years and i know everything about him and he know everything about me we are really close and im wondering if our relationship should go even further

Answer #9

can you tell me why i should wait

wb

Answer #10

I really don’t think so. I think 16 is a little bit too young. You need a job in case you get pregnant. You also need to have a good relationship both with your parents and his. Otherwise, if you get pregnant and you don’t have a very good relationship with your parents, they will see no sympathy, neither will the boy’s parents. My mom had me when she was 18 and got married at the age of 19 to my dad. If you get pregnant, please don’t consider, or think about abortion. It’s cruel and wrong. I really hope this helps yoU!

Answer #11

do it when you feel both of you are ready.. GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer #12

i dont think theres really a right age… if you and your boyfriend want it and arent uncomfortable about it then you can.

Oh yea, use a condom too. :)

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