What makes a parent unfit?

You’d think so wouldnt you, but, getting sole custody as the father is not easy. For one thing, I suggest you start by documenting proof. Then, call up social services and get a good lawyer.

Many of the things you listed would be considered ‘unfit”…however, you have to have proof…just walking and telling Social Services won’t get the job done.

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The main thing here is the safety and general well being of the children. Social Services is a state maintained service, with one main goal, to keep the family together, or if they’re seperated to reunite them. Most social workers are trained to pick up on false claims. About 75% of the claims that are made to their offices are false!! ( not meaning that your claims are untrue) So the time that’s spent on a follow up interview is important. It’s sad but most of S.S. employees are over worked and under paid. Honestly, there are only two things that you listed that are even worth S.S. investigating 1. the hand prints from being spanked (if they were spanked “properly” that will be disregarded) 2. being unattended in a car. The other things that you mentioned are inappropriate, but are they considered abuse?? As mother myself I agree with you… she’s doing a ton of things that aren’t motherly, but will your local office consider her unfit?? And even if she’s not holding down a job she’s still providing for the children through child support and welfare. My advice to you and your boyfriend… if you know she’s leaving the children alone in the car you should call the police. Get them involved if it’s truely needed. What you and your boyfriend should do, get a lawyer.