What is the best thing to do as this point?

I am a 17 year old male, who is dating a wonderful 16 year old girl. We have been dating for over 9 months now, and its been very happy between us this entire time ( no fighting included) we use to see each other everyday of summer, frequently throughout school days, and everyday at school. We love to see each other even in between classes, and at lunch. I never felt like I saw her too much. She has a lot going for her - good looks, school, she is a state champion at skiing, and even how optimistic she is… We both are accepted as a couple by the entire school, our friends grow with us all the time, and we act like best friends. We try to live life including each other frequently. After 6 months of dating we had sex. Her parents quickly found out after searching her room and finding birth control. We were trying to be safe and got caught. They do not want me around anymore( have had dinner with them before even) , because they do not want her around troublethey have said things like fck you and slut to her. The parents were high school sweet hearts, you think we would get a little compassion? They have even drug tested me before, and I passed. They take away her car, cell, computer now because they dont want her contacting me. We still like each other, and want to date, just sucks only seeing her at school. How can these parents be convinced we should date? I have tried sending them some letters to get my point across, explaining we can be responsible. They all of a sudden dont think college will happen for her. This is the only black part of my life I am trying to solve. I just want them to understand they should let us date until we break up. Because we dont do anything negative to the community, only make ourselves happier. Is it morally right for them not allow me to see her because we had sex? What can I do at this point besides not not having sex?

Answer #1

I dont think its right that they shouldnt allow you guys to date just because you had sex. if you all wanted to do it then they have no right telling you what to do but I know my parents would react the exact same way. I think if I was you guys id keep dating until things cooled down and then id go to her house and apologize to them saying it was irresponsible but you knew she was protected and you boh wanted to. but I have a very good realtiojship with a guy I see about once a month and we live with it.. so I think you can live with seeing her at school only till things calm down. her parents have a right to freak out I guess because a lot of things could have happened to their “baby” . id give it some time. but id definitly keep dating her.

Answer #2

1st- keep a strong relationship at school. that’s the only time you see her, so keep it positive.

2nd-I know you’ve already heard this, but don’t give up! I’m sure that her parents knowing you are fighting so hard for her will help get the message across.

your girlfriend is very luck to have a man like you. And don’t worry! it’s not like you’ll never see her again. Make good use of the time you spend together for now.

Answer #3

Dont give up…I had this same problem with my boyfriend we have been dating for about 8 months and we just had sex the other day…it didnt turn out good cause I thought I was pregnant and bought plan b…his mom saw the box and she wont let us be together but im not going to let her get in the way I love him too much. His mom even told me I was being selfish by bringing a popular guy that had everything going for him down to nothing by having sex with me…but its really ruining my life shes telling his friends everything and now people are calling me names and my friends dont even talk to me but were getting through it hes really the only one there for me.

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