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I have been dating my G/f for about a month now and she tells me she loves me. Personally I think its way to soon to say the “L” word, and it kind of freaks me out. My problem is that im turning 19 in a week and shes 16 not turning 17 till may. I personally think its odd to be dating her but when im around her I dont really think shes 16, IT’s just odd. She said she wanted to have sex with me the other day, and I told her there is other things to a relationship besides sex. I told her I dont want to have sex with her because it’s illegal and I dont want to risk my future. She said its okay and her parents love me, but I still think the age thing is wierd because I usually date older not younger. I think I’m making a smart choice, but this age thing is plaguing the back of my mind I don’t know if I want to break up with her or not because of it. I mean we both have different lives; she’s still in high school and I am in college. A little advice could help.

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Answer #1

it’ll take years sometimes before people realize this one big thing…: just because you want it, and it works most of the time, doesn’t always mean its right. sometimes, being happy, and letting the other person be happy is just not being together. you are in a different place then she is. and it wont be fair to either of you to stay together. its still early enough to do whats right. college brings new everything. experiences, relationships, friends, etc. she may be adult in situations, but point being, she isn’t an adult yet. 2 people, no matter how much they were ment to be together, if brought together in different points of their lives, will always have problems and hearts will be broken. its the age, and most of the time, it doesnt work when you’re older either. you used to word odd a lot. you already know the answer to your question, now is just applying it to your situation. good luck

Answer #2

love is a word as well as a comitment. if you dont feel it dont say it. as for the sex thing, you made the right choice, and if i was you i would probally tell her that i need to be with someone my own age and then go find someone you love and you wont be risking your future. it shouldnt be a crime to have sex so dont make it one. good luck! and if you do decide to break it off do it so she can really understand! bye..

Answer #3

its never too soon to be in love with somebody. i realized i loved my boyfriend when we were datin for a week. you may not feel the same as her, so just tell her that you dont feel that way yet. age means nothing, its just a number. the sex thing, she loves you and her saying that she wants to have sex with you is her saying, “i love you and am willing to give you everything” shes willing to give herself to you. but you should do what your heart tells you to do.

Answer #4

you are really confused

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