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What if I am still in love with him...?

I met a man while living in Japan in 1992-3…I was married, he was not. After a steamy, hot 3 year affair I joined the Navy and got a divorce. When I came back from the Navy, he was married! He and I continued to talk and we got “together” in December of 01. Things happened and I just couldnt keep going knowing that he was married. I had grown up since I had met him and realized that this isnt the life that I wanted to “re-live” He and I kept in contact up until 2007…He got upset at me because I wont DNA test my daughter, who is 15 years old…he thinks that there is a strong possiblity that she is his daughter. My exhusband knows all of this…but his wife does not. He wont come clean to her about any of it. I have always loved him…even to this day, I dream about him. I know it sounds psycho, but I know he loves me too. How can I get him out of my head? Why do I always think about him…?

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Answer #1

OK..so I think you know ths isnt gonna work. when you first met this man you were you married to another man. that’s enough right there to know its impossible..don’t think I need to go on.

..u need to test your daughter’s DNA. the man deserves to know, your putting your ‘feelings’ for ths man before the big picture, and thts not fair to him, your daughter, or your poor ex-husband. very selfish of u. wht if he is the father ?? how’s your daughter gonna feel ?? u’ve been living a lie for a long time..it’s time to face facts, and let this fantasy of urs GO.

p.s. – it’s a REASON he hasn’t talked to you in 3 years..perhaps many… :/.

I dn’t mean to come off harsh, but you seem completely oblivious to what’s important. there’s plenty of men that you can love out there that won’t cause mayhem in your life like this one. he’s married and doesn’t seem to be budging for you..so don’t waste your time. you’re grown.

Answer #2

You cant get rid of the one person you truly love. You will never be able to get hmi out of your head. You always think about him because you had feelings for him for over 10 years now. I can only wish you luck and the only advice I can give you is find someone else. This wont get you over him but it will temporarily block him out.

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