what does he want

Me and my ex were together for 4 years lived together for 2, we broke up and basically had no contact for 6 months. For the past 3 months he randomly calls and comes by. When I ask him what he want out of it he says he cant stand to lose me again and he is trying to solve as many problems before we get back together as he can so it will work the next time. Then I wont hear from him for a week then he will come by or call and then he dissapears for another few days. Do I assume he is being honest and how do I get him to tell me what he really wants?

Answer #1

Heard this story many times. He may be genuinly trying to work himself out so it does work the second time. But do you really want to wait for something that may never happen? he is keeping you hanging on to him by coming around and calling and telling you he wants to be with you so you feel obligated to wait and dont go meet someone else. He is making you put yourself on hold and wait for him which is a normal guy thing to do, Now what you need to do is work out whether or not you want to wait for round 2, if you do just remember that you broke up for a reason, do you really want to go there again? and if you dont you need to let him no so he stops coming around and messing with your head, and truly move on from him.

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