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What does he mean "Not Ready"?

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Okay... I have an ex & he actually is the only one I have truly loved & I didn't realize it until, well.. it was too late. Anyways... I've joined the Marines & he the Air Force & we met at MEPS, things went great & we got along very well together. I have a list & in that list is a column for wants in a man & needs in a man (qualities), every man until him I have had to cross out things in both of those columns... he has matched every quality down to a "T." Anyways he broke up with me & I was / am still "not myself" everyone sees it including I but I just can't get back to MYSELF. I talked to him after the break-up because every ex before him would blame me for the problems & he didn't so I thought he was lying; but during our conversation, I told him it would be painful to see him & he asked why, I replied that "I want something I can't have anymore" he then stated that "You just can't have it now... that doesn't mean later!" When he says things... he is blunt, to the point, & truthful no matter how much it hurts. Skip to like 2wks. later... I had to go to the doctor & I had to get an ultrasound, I called him just to let him know & he was asking me if I wanted him to be with me @ the ultrasound or if I needed any help financially, even though he knew that I wasn't pregnant. He also wanted to be there if I had to have surgery, I didn't but he waited on the phone with me until I got the results back. Then like 2wks ago we went out to play pool with one of his co-workers & his wife & he would pull me down to sit on his lap, put his forehead against mine, smile, & look into my eyes, & we even held hands. Later that night I took him home & he kissed me on the lips, like he used to when we were dating, before I left. His whole reason of breaking up with me is that "he's not ready to settle down, he wants to go ride his bike without any attachments." My question for you is does he love me, is he scared of commitments, or is this a cover-up? And... do you think there's a possibility we would get back together? We were inseparable during the relationship & we still hang out today. I've got really no interest in looking at other guys & I actually want to wait until I find out 100% that we won't get together to even start... it just doesn't feel right looking at others... I feel like I'll miss my chance with him again because that's just my luck & of course, I LOVE HIM. He doesn't believe in Divorce (neither do I) & we didn't tell eachother "I Love You" because he wanted to wait until he KNEW that was the woman he would spend the rest of his life with.. maybe he's not ready for the commitment like that but we were only together for 3months.

PLEASE HELP!!!