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What do you think? To give it up or not to give it up?

Was it a good idea for me to have sex with a guy I don’t find attractive?

I am pretty shallow and he has bugged me about it because he’s in love with me. He wanted to pleasure me even if I was the only one receiving but not giving back to him. He said that it doesn’t matter if I don’t find him cute or handsome, as long as he’s showing that he loves me and making me feel good. I guess I’m being unappreciative and rude but I feel that if I’m not attracted to him, the sex is meaningless if it’s one-sided. I tried it once with him a few days ago, but the entire time, I had my eyes closed because I didn’t want to see him. So I still couldn’t enjoy it despite what he said. He asked if he was better looking, would I have wanted to do it again and have my eyes open during, and I couldn’t answer. I do feel that way… I told him “Sorry, I tried it, but I still don’t agree.”

I mean, it felt good as long as I had my eyes closed and he wasn’t kissing me.

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Answer #1

Definitely end it. Walk away. He just knows he can talk you in to having sex with him; its unlikely he cares if you like him or not. No way should you put out when you obviously aren’t attracted to him in any way.

Answer #2

no, it was a terrible idea you dont find this guy sexually attractive, you dont even like him he has feelings for you and is hoping youll change, and now that ouve slept with him, youve just raised his hopes, and your basically sending him the wrong message you dont like him, so DONT have sex with him end it as the above said have a bit more self respect

Answer #3

Um… you need to end it. Clearly, you aren’t attracted to him.. and that’s important. He has feelings for you, but it’s no use stringing him along if you aren’t interested in him. You should just tell him to move on from you and find somebody that doesn’t want to have sex with their eyes closed lol. :)

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