What do I have to do to make it simple?

One guy..he claimed himself has waited for me for 10 years..its kinda hard for me to understand but I know its true..in our 9th of friendship I told him that I might consider bout him being my boyfriend..he was so happy but I was still confius..its been for 6 month I tried my best to love him until one day I found a pic of a girl..he commented the pic the way he talk to me..flirting way..I didnt asked him bout the pic but it kinda pull me away from him..I’ve been in silence for almost 3 weeks now..I dunno what shud I do..erm..how..should I asked him about what is in my mind..y I consider him as problem even he has been so nice to me..what is actually wrong with me..people said that we will never leave the person we luv..buyt why I always thnking of leaving him..if im not in luv then why I thnk bout him…sooo confius..

Answer #1

This is quite a confusing problem you have. Firstly about the comments on the picture I’m sure that would have hurt to see but sometimes someone is friendly with people in a way thats misinterpreted in a way they really didn’t mean it to be. If he has waited for you for so long I’m sure he didn’t realize the way he was talking to the girl. Well you have to figure out whether you love him or not, you may just like himvery much so you cant get him out of your mind. If you love a guy normally you can’t imagine leaving him but this could change if you feel hurt by him so your feelings may have a normal explanation. You have to thnk about why you think about leaving him, if its because you feel you’d be fine without him he probably isn’t the love of your life, but if your reason is you cant get over the comment he made you are probably just feeling betrayed and should give him another chance. Nothing is wrong with you, even though he’s been great to you, you may not feel the way you really wish you did. However if its the comment that is really bothering you you do need to ask him ASAP so you can take that stress out of your life. When you two are alone there is no easy way to bring it up but you should just start with something simple like “Can I ask you something” or “There’s something I’ve been meaning to talk to you about and its been bothering me a bit which is why I’ve been quiet lately” (if he doesnt know the problem he may be nervous about what’s going on with you so its good to give him an explanation, not speaking your mind will do more harm than good) Lastly I’ll just speak from personal experience I have been out with a number of guys but I could see myself doing fine wihtout them and my mind strayed frequently to thoughts of how we would break up. Since I had felt like that with every guy I thought it was normal, However I know I love my current boyfriend and I cannot imagine us splitting up it kills to think about. So it would be a good idea to really search inside yourself to find the root of why you think of breaking up with him Hope this helps a bit and doesn’t confuse you too much. Good luck I hope all goes well! x

Answer #2

dear lena711…thnk for your lovely answer..I understand your suggestion but its not just the comment that hv been bothering to me..im not a preety girl…it so hard for me to believe any guy including him..from my high school anyone that came to me and claimed that he liked me…I wud just say to him that if you like me thn you hv to wait until im ready…when will it be thats im not sure..quite a few waited but mostly they all gone..he is the only among the guy that was so patient to wait and manage to cop with me..he was nice..I can tell he love me..but I dunno..im simple girl with simple life style…but when it comes to feeling I can b so complicated and prefer simple solution like leave everything behind..I leave him so many times..he always know how to find me..its not easy for me to ask the question…the last massage I’ve send to him was “I dunno how to put dis into words..I believe about honesty..im so honest in my relationship..what I know is that when sumone did wrong to me..the wrong thing will come itself to me..I find that sumthing must be quite wrong about u..n if you thnk that you hv did sumthing wrong..then please just tell me k..if you thnk you didnt do anything wrong then just leave it like that..but what I know is its bothering me and pull me away from u…” …im sooo stupid when it comes to feeling..

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