What do I get her?

..How can you be “pretty much together” Either you are, or you aren’t. You must be a VERY mature 13 year old to have a girlfriend that far ahead of you. As for a birthday present.. I think making a bracelet or necklace would be sweet, especially for your age. However there is never anything wrong with getting her something nice. Doesn’t have to be expensive obviously unless you want to go balls out on this. About her emotional pain.. yeah, as girls we make bad decisions about who we date. It’s what makes the really good guy ten times more amazing. I think that it’ll just take time.. keep doing things that show her that you truly care.